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Identity Crisis

I knew I wanted to write a blog post to connect with you but, I was not quite sure exactly what I wanted to write about. So, here we are…

I knew I wanted to write a blog post to connect with you but, I was not quite sure exactly what I wanted to write about.

So, here we are and I fancy having a general chit chat.

Let’s talk

The other week, unintentionally, I took a short break from consistently uploading and sharing my life to Instagram. You probably would not have noticed because it really was a short break but for me it felt like a life time. My content is usually planned and organised. It was the first time I had literally nothing to post and also did not feel the need to post.

When I first started

I started sharing my motherhood journey three years ago. Motherhood did not come easy to me and my support system was non-existent. Writing and sharing was fulfilling. In fact, I started this blog before my instagram, to write about reflux struggles and share reviews on baby products. Connecting with new mums and gaining an insight into how to parent and seeing the reality in other homes was comforting.

Over time, my need to rely on social media to share my motherhood journey has not been the same. Sometimes, I get a feeling where I don’t even want to share my children online at all. I’m more conscious of how often I am on my phone or recording my children. Imagine if their memories of me are seeing me with my phone constantly in my hand.

Identity crisis

During and after pregnancy, I seem to go through a phase where I loose my identity. While I know this is normal because priorities change so hobbies are put on hold and your physical appearance changes so clothes don’t look the same anymore, my point is, I have found that I relay on social media to be my comfort blanket again. I turned to fashion bloggers.

Without realising I became influenced to become a person that was not me.

My aesthetic has always varied. One day I would be wearing white doc martens, leather pants and one of my dads Led Zeppelin t-shirts in the hope I would look like Jared Leto and the next day I’d be sporting an outfit with florals and a Louis bag.

With Instagram, I sometimes feel you have to have one aesthetic. So overtime, part of my creativity and ways to express myself was limited. The hundreds of fashion bloggers posting about the exact same outfits with the same colour scheme overwhelmed me and made me feel like anything but that style was not ok. This is not a criticism of the bloggers to be clear, more to myself for feeling like I had to follow due to their current popularity and not allowing myself to like any other style.

The time off opened my eyes. I did not have to wake up and feel if I was insta ready. I could wear my Pokemon t-shirt one day and the next a boho dress.

Not too sure where this conversation is going now, If you are feeling suppressed as you, take a moment to remember yourself. What do you like? What values do you have?

I’ll go first:

Introducing myself

Hi i’m Zoe,

I’m obsessed with the band 30 Seconds To Mars, so much so, I went to see them at a concert on my own and I had the best time of my life. My taste in music varies. One day I will have Placebo on repeat and the next Taylor Swift.

My passion is computers. My aim is to not let any student feel like they are struggling with Computer Science, if that means replying to messages and tutoring them through their homework at 11pm so be it.

Family is incredibly important to me. The promise I made to myself is to give my children the complete opposite upbringing to what I went through and so far, I feel like the positive relationship established with them are making that promise feel daft to have been made in the first place.

A goal I am continuing to work towards is to live sustainably. By no means am I perfect now, but the knowledge I have gained and put into practice so far is a step in the right direction. It has been fun to take you on this journey with me and that is something I want to continue to share with you.

And finally as for aesthetic…

I love everything and a promise to myself is to not put myself in one box. Can it be a thing to not just have one aesthetic please?


I love you all, thank you to listening to me ramble




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Styling Mole and Frankie’s Playroom

The Playroom: our first point of call when boredom strikes. A handy option to have to break up part of the day. Here is our Playroom journey: My thinking The…

The Playroom: our first point of call when boredom strikes. A handy option to have to break up part of the day.

Here is our Playroom journey:toddler playroom kitchen

My thinking

The style of the whole house is cool-toned neutral with a modern twist. In addition, I still wanted to keep to a modern flow , to be cohesive for the style going on with the rest of the house. However, this room needed to be inviting for the children. Give off an impulse to play and be creative.


Scandinavian Style

The Scandinavian style. Renowned for their simplicity, utility, and beauty. Besides, when researching different themes for the room I came across many different ones, from Boho to Classic. Nothing matched my love for minimalism until I saw the Nordic/Scandinavian Style. The love for clean lines, simple art and functionality. But, what pulled my heart in the most was the use of natural materials like wood.

Choosing a colour palette

Choosing the room colour is very important. I knew I wanted top take a risk with this room and ditch the typical neutral toned walls like the rest of the house. My usual motto is to go with neutral walls and add colour and warmth with decor.

The room is a small box room. Therefore, choosing a dark colour for the walls was out of the question. Finally, once I had settled on the intention of a playful environment with colour, I began to look at palette that were suitable for this idea.

Nordic Spa by Dulux was bright, clean and fun. I can not explain to you, how much using this colour on all of the walls changed the openness of the room. It was like we had added an extra window.

The tone worked beautifully with dusky pinks, grey and blue.

Wall Arttoddler wall art

The three posters have been framed with a thick black frame to create the clean defined lines seen in Scandinavian styles.

The background colours on the art add pops of colour and tie in the rest of the colour palette.

I purchased them from Desenio. They were placed in the centre of the wall and a little higher up to allow for a spacious feel, as most of the storage and play toys are at the lower level.


The key to making a Playroom complete. Storage is essential. I went for large draws that are big enough to throw all sorts of toys in that are usually on the floor making the room look untidy. Most importantly, storage is vital for keeping for children entertained.


Toy rotation. Storage allows toys to be hidden out of sight. Rotating the toys makes them feel like new.

Using natural materials for the storage was necessary. I hate plastic. It is bad for the environment. Plastic takes away the Scandinavian style where the core purpose is to provide functionality with natural materials.nordic playroom

The storage we use is from Flexa.

The Storage Bench 3 in 1

My favourite feature is the cut-out. This ensures that the child will not pinch the fingers when the storage bench is been closed. The sleek, modern design means that the storage bench will look beautiful in any room of the house. Place cushions on top to make the storage area a seating area.

One downside I have with the storage bench is that it is tricky to open the draw on the carpet. It would work better on wooden or tiled floor.

To add to the storage. This toy chest on wheels allows you to decide if you want it as storage or a pull along cart.

Book Storage

Flexa Play Shelf

In addition to the toy storage, to keep the furniture matching, the bookshelf is also from Flexa. Originally, I wanted the bookshelf higher on the wall to create shelving and free up floor space. However, the kids have access to the books when it is on the floor and I did not want to drill holes in the wall to hang the case up on.

Table and Chairstoddler table and chair

Shortly after Mole celebrated her second Birthday, I realised the need for a table and chair set. Allowing her to be creative with arts and crafts or her favourite thing to do is set up a tea party on.

I had spent hours researching table and chair sets that were of good quality. An easy option for me was to go back with the brand Flexa. They have provided quality and the colour scheme their furniture comes in matches the theme of the playroom.

The deep pink serves a contrast with the greys in the room.

Play table Popsicle?

You can mix and match the stools for more pops of colour.

Stool Popsicle

Creating Space

The Playroom is a small box room so, when all of the furniture and storage moved in, the space closed in too. I needed to extend the space without extending the physical footprint of the room. To do this I added a simple play mat.

The play mat has created a new section in the room in fact, we call this section the kitchen area, when I see Mole or Frankie getting bored of the area, it can be changed to a new area.

The style of the mat flows with the rest of the room.

Our playmat is in the shade: Moon Grey

Statement Toystoddler wooden toy blocks

Lastly, you need statement toys for defining the playroom from a storage room, moreover, once all of the main toys have been tided up and put away, I leave the following toys out for character and style.

Ooh Noo Wooden Blocks

Mole and Frankie love to stack the blocks and I think they look fantastic spread across the playmat.

Toy Kitchen

This toy kitchen belonged in the living room. I choose this kitchen because it was small enough to fit in the space I had available for it at the time. I didn’t want an overpowering toy kitchen in the area where I like to relax.

The kitchen is made from natural wood.

Soft Play

Frankie’s personal favourite. Soft play blocks with a slide. The soft play has given us so much laughter over the year it is my favourite part of the play room too!


I hope you enjoyed reading about the thought process behind creating the playroom. I am always keen to hear your thoughts. Most importantly, advice on what I could add to improve functionality or style. Please leave a comment below.











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