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How do I get my baby into a nap routine?

Most new mums burning question: “How do I get my baby into a nap routine?” As soon as Mole hit three months I began working on her nap routine. I…

Most new mums burning question:

“How do I get my baby into a nap routine?”

As soon as Mole hit three months I began working on her nap routine. I felt like it was important for the both of us. I could get my me time back and Mole would be less grouchy in the evenings.

Baby nap time routine

Most three-to six-month-olds will sleep for around 15 hours a day, including regular naps throughout.

According to parenting experts your baby ideally needs three sleeps totalling no more than five hours.

Working on a nap routine

To get Mole to have three naps a day was well out of our reach. It was hard enough getting her to go down for one let alone three.

I focussed on her first nap and what ever else happened was an added bonus.

The key to her napping was to notice the signs of when she is tired. At around 9:45am I place her on her play mat if she is not already there and study her.

Baby nap time routine

Signs my baby is tired

  • Rubbing their eyes
  • Cycling their legs
  • Clasp their hands
  • Rubbing their face
  • Begin to be vocal
  • Moan and groan
  • Shout
  • Cry
  • Loss of interest in toys

Morning nap

When Mole displays these signs I take her straight up to her cot. It’s a good idea to have a warm bottle prepared too (I usually make this at 9:40am).

Baby nap time routine

The key is to take her up as she is displaying the start of these signs e.g. moaning not shouting. As you get use to what you need to look out for the whole process is easier. I can tell within three seconds of looking at her if she needs a nap now.

If you wait till they are shouting then you run the risk of them being over tired and getting them to nap in a cot becomes a nightmare.

Ensuring their room is dark is a signal to your baby that sleep is needed. I will give Mole her bottle and blanket. The majority of the time she falls straight to sleep after her bottle.

Afternoon nap

Mole’s afternoon nap is a different story. It is much harder to get her down for this nap compared to the morning nap.

She does not display the window of tiredness signs as she does in the morning so what I did was work out a time that is best for both of us.

2:00pm. I know that she has had her dinner, nappy change and playtime after dinner. I also know that she is probably ready for her next bottle. I take her to her room and place her in the cot and feed her the bottle. This time she rarely falls asleep on the bottle so I have to give her a kiss and leave the room.

50% of the time she will talk herself to sleep and I love listening through the door at her cute conversation.

Feeling like you are failing

The other 50% of the time she will cry and scream. I have learnt that if she has had all of her bottle I can leave her for 5-10 minutes and then I go back and check on her. Usually I have to go and distract myself and put the washing in or let the dog outside as hearing her cry upsets me and I give into myself and bring her down stairs. Luckily she ends up falling asleep. I have the lollipop baby camera so I can check up on her on my phone without going in and disturbing her.

Nap time

If Mole is still awake and not settled then I will check her nappy, offer her more bottle and try again.

I never put pressure of myself to make the routine perfect. If the second nap fails I simply take her back down for more playtime and make sure she is in bed for the night at an earlier time.

Failing baby nap time

What are good nap times?

Good nap times are around the “window of tiredness”. This tends to be 90 minutes after first waking in the morning, 30 minutes to 60 after the lunchtime feed and at 4-5pm in the afternoon.

You will work out what times work for you both.

Nap time tips

  • Look out for your baby rubbing their eyes
  • Have a warm bottle prepared
  • Make sure the room is dark
  • Lavender sleep spray can help them associate it is time to sleep
  • Consistency! I stayed in for 2 weeks putting her in her cot at the same time every day.
  • Do not give in straight away. Try to distract yourself whilst they cry and learn to self settle for the first 5 minutes.
  • Fresh nappy
  • You don’t have to change them back into their pjs.
  • Make the house as quiet as possible whilst they are trying to sleep.
  • Invest in a baby monitor Baby nap time tips

I hope you enjoyed reading! Comment below your nap time tips ?.

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10 things no one tells you about childbirth

When I was pregnant I would spend my time researching everything to do with childbirth. I wanted to be sure that I knew everything. Nothing was going to surprise me…

When I was pregnant I would spend my time researching everything to do with childbirth. I wanted to be sure that I knew everything. Nothing was going to surprise me when the time would come to go to the hospital. I would even spend nights watching One Born Every Minute so I was clued up on different scenarios.

But, from my experience there was 10 things no one told me about childbirth. I wonder if you agree with them too!

1.You do not rush to the hospital

From the first moment I experienced my first contraction I expected that my baby was about to come within 5 minutes. The race to the hospital was on! Wrong. You have to time your contractions until they are the correct lengths and time apart. This can take hours! I waited all day and when I turned up barely being able to walk, the hospital still wanted to send me back home.

2. Waters don’t always gush

In films whenever a lady’s water breaks there is the biggest gush of water leaving a pool on the floor. Not always the case. Some women only experience a little trickle of their water breaking. That’s usually down to the break being at the top of the sac. My waters didn’t even break on their own. The midwife popped them during the final stages of my labour. Other than my baby’s head crowning, it was one of the most painful experiences of my life! The pressure felt like I was going to burst open!

3. It feels like you need to go for a number 2

Is this TMI? I don’t know? But it’s true! No one told me this! When your contractions start it can feel like you need to go to the toilet. I kept going to the toilet but nothing was happening because that’s just how going into labour felt. I was also really embarrassed at the time thinking I had an off stomach that had come completely at the wrong time!

4. The waiting game

Labour can last for ages and ages. I was in labour for 12 hours. Whilst you are there on the hospital bed in absolute agony, whoever is by your side will be watching TV, eating crisps and just chilling. The time for you passes by and you are so focused on breathing techniques. But your birthing partner will feel the process is lasting a lifetime.

5. Placenta delivery

I knew after delivering a baby you have to then deliver your placenta. What I didn’t know what how painful this is. I also didn’t know that this can lead to more complications. Even after having a natural birth, you could still go to theatre to deliver the placenta.

6. Stitches

Ouch. I don’t have to tell you how much this hurts because I’m sure you can imagine. I had no idea that I was going to be lay down with my legs open for a good 40 minutes whilst the midwife figured out how to stitch up my complicated tear.

7. Blood

I was not prepared for the amount of blood loss. Even after birth. You will go through mummy pads as much as your newborn will go through nappies.

8. Birth plan goes out the window

You have no control and there is no point getting your hopes up. You have to go with the flow and trust your midwife. If you can get a say then brilliant. But do not be disheartened when things do not go exactly how you want.

9. Feeding your baby after birth

As a first time mum, I was unaware of how often to feed and how long for. During antenatal classes I learnt how to breastfeed. Daft right? I didn’t even have a baby to practice with. I assumed as soon as I had given birth I would begin to breastfeed. Little did I know that me and my baby would both need practice. And well, even after practice we both couldn’t get it. That’s okay! Other methods of feeding your baby are available with NO judgement. Just do what works best for YOU.

10. Pure emotion

People talk about how it is the best feeling in the world to give birth to your baby and that is so true. But I couldn’t believe the range of emotions felt. You can go from being scared to happy pretty quickly. Even after you have given birth you still feel overwhelmed with emotions.

Let me know what people didn’t tell you about childbirth!

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10 things about Mole

Get to know Mole! I thought I’d share with you 10 different things about my lovely, little Mole so you can get to know her a little bit more 😀…

Get to know Mole!

I thought I’d share with you 10 different things about my lovely, little Mole so you can get to know her a little bit more 😀

  1. Her favourite food is Cauliflower Cheese Puree. Its the one food I can always guarantee she will eat even on her fussy days.
  2. She’s a nosey parker. Whenever we are in restaurants or cafes, she always has to swivel her head and watch what everybody else is doing.
  3. Mole has a webbed toe. It is her little toe and i’m not sure what to do about it really. We have had the option for it to be separated but at the moment its not bothering her so I have left it be.
  4. Mole is obsessed with my iPhone which has resulted in her getting a pretend VTech mobile off her Grandma
  5. Her favourite song is Charlie and the Numbers from BabyTV. Even if I just sing the first number she smiles.
  6. Her first word was Mama ?? and her second word was Dada.
  7. When we went to Chester Zoo her favourite animal was the giraffe. She was mesmerised by how big they were.
  8. Mole has visited 2 other countries. France when she was 6 weeks old and Majorca when she was 4 months old. Very lucky baby.
  9. Mole hates peas. HATES them.
  10. When Mole use to go in the sunlight she would always squint her eyes like a little Mole and her nickname stuck even more.
  11. Ok, I know I said 10 things but I couldn’t miss this one off… Jay and I rarely call her Molly. If it’s not Mole, Moley or Mole rat then it’s Suzie because we think she looks like a Suzie.

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10 things i’d do differently next time I have a baby

No I am definitely not broody…well don’t ask me that question if I am around cute, little newborns or Mole is having a good day.?But… I was thinking about what…

No I am definitely not broody…well don’t ask me that question if I am around cute, little newborns or Mole is having a good day.?But… I was thinking about what I would do differently next time I have a baby. I wonder if you also would do the same or have experienced the same feelings as me?

This post will also be helpful for a new mum-to-be, getting some advice from a mum that had no clue at first and has learnt a lot from her mistakes!

1. Have my mum present during labour

Now I know I am only at number 1 and already doing this wrong as I did have my mum present during labour with Mole, but, I’d 100% make sure she was again. There is just something calming about having your mother there. Maybe it is because she has been through it before and can give you advice or maybe its helpful because everyone needs their mummy sometimes. Comment below if you had any parents present?

2. I will not put pressure on myself to breastfeed

Sure I will give it a go, just like I did with Mole and if it doesn’t work out I promise myself not to lose sleep over it. Mole has coped just fine on formula and it has been very easy with bottle feeding and working out a routine.

3. Get sleep before visitors!

This is a huge one for me. As soon as you have a new baby you are in a whirlwind and surviving off adrenaline and coffee. I am so grateful for all visitors, taking time out of their lives to see my baby and making sure we are all well, but, it completely floored me. I think next time I will wait a week before allowing visitors so I can get settled…or I will make them make their own drinks so I don’t have to keep getting up and going through the pain of my burning stitches sitting back down. Sorry not sorry.

4. Be more open with Baby Blues

I am so guilty of always painting a smile on my face and pretending i’m all good and next time I will not allow myself to do this. Its far too draining. I will be honest and ask for help when I need it and not try to cope on my own.

5. I will not listen to every single piece of advice

Some advice is definitely helpful however, I tried to take on board everyone’s advice and it didn’t work for me. I will learn as I go and make my own mistakes to learn from. Next time I will be more confident to trust my own instinct. This includes getting into my own routine and not follow someone else’s.

6.Take more photos!

I have no photographs of Mole right after I gave birth to her. I have some from a while later but I would love to see more from right when she came into the world. I think it would be incredible to see.

7. Not rush into decorating the nursery

When I was pregnant I had the whole room finished as I felt an urge to rush it all. When in reality the baby doesn’t even sleep in there for 6 months. I wish I took the time to plan out the nursery and not jump straight into the first style I had in mind.

8. Use a dummy straight away

I was told not to use a dummy because it can confuse the baby when they come to breastfeed. Mole loves her dummy as a comforter and it has saved us in so many situations where she has got herself worked up and the dummy has helped to calm her down. I wish I would have gave it to her sooner and saved some public meltdowns.

9. Save up

Next time around I’m going to try and put more money behind me so I can have longer off work and really cherish the moment of being able to spend it with raising my baby. I hate the fact that money controls how much time I will have off with Mole. I’d love to have longer as it is going by far too quickly now.

10. Not stress about getting my pre baby body back

I went to the gym just 2 weeks after giving birth. I was so disgusted with how I looked and I would slog myself at the gym to try and feel like the old me again. Although I have controlled what I eat to an extent and I have been active, your body does just go back over time. I will not go crazy trying to fit into my old jeans until I am truly ready and after more sleep.

I’m sure there are probably 100’s of things I will do differently next time around but these stuck out for me. What about you? Do any of these sound similar to you or would you change other things? Let me know in the comments 🙂

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