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Myths About Mum Bloggers

Becoming a blogger has been one of the best decisions I have made. I love having a way to express my main passion in life. Parenting. I have noticed a…

Becoming a blogger has been one of the best decisions I have made. I love having a way to express my main passion in life. Parenting.

I have noticed a few regular perceptions of mum bloggers where I have admittedly, had a little chuckle to myself.

Mum blogger myths

“Mum bloggers spend no time with their kids”

Believe it or not, blogging has made me spend more time with Mole!

I love having my free time to play and admire her. I love watching her grow and being able to share our journey with the world.

I do my blogging as soon as she goes down for a nap or in the evening after she has gone to bed. Obviously if she is busy playing by herself I will check Instagram but what parent doesn’t nowadays?

If I wasn’t blogging I would most likely be back at work as I would have been desperate for something to keep my mind active.

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“You’re only doing that so you can blog about it”

There has been times I’ll admit where I have done things so I can capture a photo. For example dressing Mole up in an outfit. But I think I would do that anyway even if I didn’t have a blog?Uk mummy blogger

I also feel like I get out more and do more with her. I love sharing what we get up to online. I would still take her to as many activity days as I can so she can look back on her childhood and be happy.

Products have been a big one where sometimes I have been influenced. When I can see everyone talking about a product and I have got one too and felt the need to also talk about it. (Only if it was good of course.)

“You get everything for free”

I wish haha. I am kindly gifted products in return for a review. Reviews take a lot of work. You can easily spend hours making sure your content is up to scratch to impress the brand.

Some companies offer discounts for their products too which is handy.

The majority of the time I have paid full price for a product and I will be talking about it because I love it so much and want everyone to try it!

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“You think you are the perfect mum”

No. I think I am talking on behalf of the majority of mum bloggers here. We do not think we are the perfect mum but we definitely try our hardest to be the best mum possible.

My life can look very put together through pictures. House will be spotless, makeup flawless and no baby snot on my clothes but that is probably for less than 5 minutes I can assure you.

I mainly spend my days in my pjs with a standard mum bun, tripping up over Moles toys left all over the floor.

I will also blog about my experience so far with Mole and any advice I can give I will do. This is to help as many people as I can, not to show off that I think I am a mother know it all haha.

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What myths have you heard? I would love to know!

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Thank-you so much

Zoe

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5 Baby Led Weaning Mistakes

I’m going to confess to 5 mistakes I made when moving on to baby led weaning with Mole. Background I began weaning Mole at 4 months old after thinking we…

I’m going to confess to 5 mistakes I made when moving on to baby led weaning with Mole.

Baby led weaning

Background

I began weaning Mole at 4 months old after thinking we were both ready, turns out we was not quite ready yet so waited another month.

Mole began of smooth puréed foods and loved it!

I could feed Mole any flavour and she would eat the whole lot.

As mole reached 7 months I began to change up her eating routine to gain techniques with different textures.

However, this is when I made some silly and avoidable mistakes.

Baby led weaning mistakes

  • Eating hard foods straight away.
  • Giving up on foods my baby does not like.
  • Not judging the length of time correctly it takes my baby to eat their food.
  • Cutting the food into the wrong shapes.
  • Over facing my baby with too much food.Baby led weaning help

Baby led weaning mistakes explained

Eating hard foods

I never took a minute to think that Mole had mainly smooth purée. Moving on to hard food such as cucumber just did not work for her. She had no teeth and found it hard to break down. Mole would just gum the cucumber making no progress or just spit it out and gag.

After practicing with soft foods like croquettes and strawberries, Mole felt confident to have a go on harder foods. I also felt like she was enjoying eating and not getting as frustrated.

Giving up on foods my baby does not like

This one is my main mistake. Each time Mole would display signs of not enjoying a food I would give in and never feed her that food again. This also goes for pouches. However, I have now noticed that she changes her mind like the wind. One day she could love a food and the next day she will hate it. I just have to count my luck with her. Knowing this mistake has helped a lot with our baby led weaning journey.

I began giving her vegetables as this is the most healthy type of food for her. Mole did not like eating a piece of broccoli compared to eating broccoli purée. I switched it up to giving her fruits knowing that she will eat fruit. And she did. I tried again with her veg and suddenly she was eating it with no issues.

I do think that her mood and time of day has a big role to play too.

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Not judging the length of time correctly it takes my baby to eat their food

A mistake I made was trying baby led weaning with her right before we had to either go out or be out in a restaurant.

I am sure some babies take to this okay but mine did not.

If we were out there was always far too much going on for her to even have any interest in picking up her food and eating it.

Compared to feeding Mole a purée, baby led weaning takes so much longer. Not my best idea if I had plans afterwards. Obviously you can not rush them to eat so you have to be patient. This was a little frustrating for me when all she would do is throw food on the floor or spit every little bit out.

I made sure that when we were doing baby led weaning, we had all the time in the world to eat. It was also nice as I could get a hot cup of coffee whilst she was still eating.

Cutting the food into the wrong shapes

I Googled what shapes to cut the food into when I first started baby led weaning. I did this because I was terrified of her choking. Every website I read said cutting into halves or finger sized slices.

I think this is one mistake that maybe more unique to Mole. She preferred her food in small bits. Mole seems to hold the food better and put it into her mouth better compared to finger sized foods.

Now she is getting more confident I am giving her food in bigger pieces.

Over facing my baby with too much food

Looking on Instagram for inspiration I would see beautiful plates full of colourful food.

I basically copied not taking into account that Mole had gone from a smooth purée straight to a plate of food would be too much.

She would not eat any of the food and try to throw the plate on the floor. I gave up quickly and I became discouraged after seeing so many other babies eat plate fulls of food online.

I still display all her food nicely on a plate for photo purposes but when it comes to giving her the food I just take a little bit off the plate and let her eat that. Once she has finished I give her more. I could not believe how much progress she made doing it this way.

Baby led weaning tips

  • Start off with their ultimate favourite foods such as fruit
  • Use kitchen roll to get rid of any excess juice which will discourage their grip
  • Use a knife with a serrated edge to help their grip
  • Start off with Ella’s melty puffs to build your confidence with them not choking
  • If your baby is still struggling then they might not be ready. Feed your baby textured purée instead for a bit longer.
  • Try again tomorrow. Don’t give up
  • Choose soft foods to begin
  • Feed them in your baby’s usual eating environment
  • Turn off any distractions such as the TV
  • Get a dog to help clean up the mess haha.

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How do I get my baby into a nap routine?

Most new mums burning question: “How do I get my baby into a nap routine?” As soon as Mole hit three months I began working on her nap routine. I…

Most new mums burning question:

“How do I get my baby into a nap routine?”

As soon as Mole hit three months I began working on her nap routine. I felt like it was important for the both of us. I could get my me time back and Mole would be less grouchy in the evenings.

Baby nap time routine

Most three-to six-month-olds will sleep for around 15 hours a day, including regular naps throughout.

According to parenting experts your baby ideally needs three sleeps totalling no more than five hours.

Working on a nap routine

To get Mole to have three naps a day was well out of our reach. It was hard enough getting her to go down for one let alone three.

I focussed on her first nap and what ever else happened was an added bonus.

The key to her napping was to notice the signs of when she is tired. At around 9:45am I place her on her play mat if she is not already there and study her.

Baby nap time routine

Signs my baby is tired

  • Rubbing their eyes
  • Cycling their legs
  • Clasp their hands
  • Rubbing their face
  • Begin to be vocal
  • Moan and groan
  • Shout
  • Cry
  • Loss of interest in toys

Morning nap

When Mole displays these signs I take her straight up to her cot. It’s a good idea to have a warm bottle prepared too (I usually make this at 9:40am).

Baby nap time routine

The key is to take her up as she is displaying the start of these signs e.g. moaning not shouting. As you get use to what you need to look out for the whole process is easier. I can tell within three seconds of looking at her if she needs a nap now.

If you wait till they are shouting then you run the risk of them being over tired and getting them to nap in a cot becomes a nightmare.

Ensuring their room is dark is a signal to your baby that sleep is needed. I will give Mole her bottle and blanket. The majority of the time she falls straight to sleep after her bottle.

Afternoon nap

Mole’s afternoon nap is a different story. It is much harder to get her down for this nap compared to the morning nap.

She does not display the window of tiredness signs as she does in the morning so what I did was work out a time that is best for both of us.

2:00pm. I know that she has had her dinner, nappy change and playtime after dinner. I also know that she is probably ready for her next bottle. I take her to her room and place her in the cot and feed her the bottle. This time she rarely falls asleep on the bottle so I have to give her a kiss and leave the room.

50% of the time she will talk herself to sleep and I love listening through the door at her cute conversation.

Feeling like you are failing

The other 50% of the time she will cry and scream. I have learnt that if she has had all of her bottle I can leave her for 5-10 minutes and then I go back and check on her. Usually I have to go and distract myself and put the washing in or let the dog outside as hearing her cry upsets me and I give into myself and bring her down stairs. Luckily she ends up falling asleep. I have the lollipop baby camera so I can check up on her on my phone without going in and disturbing her.

Nap time

If Mole is still awake and not settled then I will check her nappy, offer her more bottle and try again.

I never put pressure of myself to make the routine perfect. If the second nap fails I simply take her back down for more playtime and make sure she is in bed for the night at an earlier time.

Failing baby nap time

What are good nap times?

Good nap times are around the “window of tiredness”. This tends to be 90 minutes after first waking in the morning, 30 minutes to 60 after the lunchtime feed and at 4-5pm in the afternoon.

You will work out what times work for you both.

Nap time tips

  • Look out for your baby rubbing their eyes
  • Have a warm bottle prepared
  • Make sure the room is dark
  • Lavender sleep spray can help them associate it is time to sleep
  • Consistency! I stayed in for 2 weeks putting her in her cot at the same time every day.
  • Do not give in straight away. Try to distract yourself whilst they cry and learn to self settle for the first 5 minutes.
  • Fresh nappy
  • You don’t have to change them back into their pjs.
  • Make the house as quiet as possible whilst they are trying to sleep.
  • Invest in a baby monitor Baby nap time tips

I hope you enjoyed reading! Comment below your nap time tips 😊.

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10 things no one tells you about childbirth

When I was pregnant I would spend my time researching everything to do with childbirth. I wanted to be sure that I knew everything. Nothing was going to surprise me…

When I was pregnant I would spend my time researching everything to do with childbirth. I wanted to be sure that I knew everything. Nothing was going to surprise me when the time would come to go to the hospital. I would even spend nights watching One Born Every Minute so I was clued up on different scenarios.

But, from my experience there was 10 things no one told me about childbirth. I wonder if you agree with them too!

1.You do not rush to the hospital

From the first moment I experienced my first contraction I expected that my baby was about to come within 5 minutes. The race to the hospital was on! Wrong. You have to time your contractions until they are the correct lengths and time apart. This can take hours! I waited all day and when I turned up barely being able to walk, the hospital still wanted to send me back home.

2. Waters don’t always gush

In films whenever a lady’s water breaks there is the biggest gush of water leaving a pool on the floor. Not always the case. Some women only experience a little trickle of their water breaking. That’s usually down to the break being at the top of the sac. My waters didn’t even break on their own. The midwife popped them during the final stages of my labour. Other than my baby’s head crowning, it was one of the most painful experiences of my life! The pressure felt like I was going to burst open!

3. It feels like you need to go for a number 2

Is this TMI? I don’t know? But it’s true! No one told me this! When your contractions start it can feel like you need to go to the toilet. I kept going to the toilet but nothing was happening because that’s just how going into labour felt. I was also really embarrassed at the time thinking I had an off stomach that had come completely at the wrong time!

4. The waiting game

Labour can last for ages and ages. I was in labour for 12 hours. Whilst you are there on the hospital bed in absolute agony, whoever is by your side will be watching TV, eating crisps and just chilling. The time for you passes by and you are so focused on breathing techniques. But your birthing partner will feel the process is lasting a lifetime.

5. Placenta delivery

I knew after delivering a baby you have to then deliver your placenta. What I didn’t know what how painful this is. I also didn’t know that this can lead to more complications. Even after having a natural birth, you could still go to theatre to deliver the placenta.

6. Stitches

Ouch. I don’t have to tell you how much this hurts because I’m sure you can imagine. I had no idea that I was going to be lay down with my legs open for a good 40 minutes whilst the midwife figured out how to stitch up my complicated tear.

7. Blood

I was not prepared for the amount of blood loss. Even after birth. You will go through mummy pads as much as your newborn will go through nappies.

8. Birth plan goes out the window

You have no control and there is no point getting your hopes up. You have to go with the flow and trust your midwife. If you can get a say then brilliant. But do not be disheartened when things do not go exactly how you want.

9. Feeding your baby after birth

As a first time mum, I was unaware of how often to feed and how long for. During antenatal classes I learnt how to breastfeed. Daft right? I didn’t even have a baby to practice with. I assumed as soon as I had given birth I would begin to breastfeed. Little did I know that me and my baby would both need practice. And well, even after practice we both couldn’t get it. That’s okay! Other methods of feeding your baby are available with NO judgement. Just do what works best for YOU.

10. Pure emotion

People talk about how it is the best feeling in the world to give birth to your baby and that is so true. But I couldn’t believe the range of emotions felt. You can go from being scared to happy pretty quickly. Even after you have given birth you still feel overwhelmed with emotions.

Let me know what people didn’t tell you about childbirth!

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10 things about Mole

Get to know Mole! I thought I’d share with you 10 different things about my lovely, little Mole so you can get to know her a little bit more 😀…

Get to know Mole!

I thought I’d share with you 10 different things about my lovely, little Mole so you can get to know her a little bit more 😀

  1. Her favourite food is Cauliflower Cheese Puree. Its the one food I can always guarantee she will eat even on her fussy days.
  2. She’s a nosey parker. Whenever we are in restaurants or cafes, she always has to swivel her head and watch what everybody else is doing.
  3. Mole has a webbed toe. It is her little toe and i’m not sure what to do about it really. We have had the option for it to be separated but at the moment its not bothering her so I have left it be.
  4. Mole is obsessed with my iPhone which has resulted in her getting a pretend VTech mobile off her Grandma
  5. Her favourite song is Charlie and the Numbers from BabyTV. Even if I just sing the first number she smiles.
  6. Her first word was Mama ❤️ and her second word was Dada.
  7. When we went to Chester Zoo her favourite animal was the giraffe. She was mesmerised by how big they were.
  8. Mole has visited 2 other countries. France when she was 6 weeks old and Majorca when she was 4 months old. Very lucky baby.
  9. Mole hates peas. HATES them.
  10. When Mole use to go in the sunlight she would always squint her eyes like a little Mole and her nickname stuck even more.
  11. Ok, I know I said 10 things but I couldn’t miss this one off… Jay and I rarely call her Molly. If it’s not Mole, Moley or Mole rat then it’s Suzie because we think she looks like a Suzie.

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The worst parenting advice for new mums

Have you recently had a baby? Congratulations! I’ve just had a baby too, well 5 months ago now and I can finally say I have started to get the hang…

Have you recently had a baby? Congratulations! I’ve just had a baby too, well 5 months ago now and I can finally say I have started to get the hang of motherhood now and I honestly never thought I would ever be able to say that. Especially in the first 3 months. That was the hardest for me.

I attended one of my friends baby shower the other day and she had an “Advice Book” for guests to leave a piece of advice in their about motherhood. Considering I have just been in the baby bubble recently my mind went blank. It reminded me, really clearly, about the new mum wilderness and the wasteland of parenting advice I received.

As soon as you announce you are pregnant advice comes at you from all angles. Well it did at me. I got opinions left right and centre. I was judged on every decision I made.  Advice came from anyone. An old lady in the doctors waiting room, a cashier at the supermarket, the midwife, my family and of course I became obsessed with anything baby/new mum related on the Internet, magazines  and apps. (I literally think I had every pregnancy app going.)

And the thing is, most of it is terrible. But when you are a first time mum it’s difficult to tell. You just want to be a sponge and absorb everything you are told so you can try to do a perfect job. What is the worst advice you could give to new mums?

Here’s mine 😀

Sleep When the Baby Sleeps

How many people have been told this? I still get told this 5 months on :O . It’s like its everybody’s favourite piece of advice to give you. They put their hand on your arm and tilt their head whist saying it in a calm yet patronising tone. Well these people must not have had a baby in a very long time because it is not that easy. I tried. In reality when your baby naps that is the only time you get to do anything such as have a shower, eat, clean, you know, basic human needs. By the time you fall asleep for your own nap your baby will wake up again anyway. Literally no point.

The cleaning can wait

Erm no. No the cleaning can not wait. I refuse to live in a pig sty. It’s bad enough being horrendously tired with a million and one visitors to see the baby and your house being a tip. For me, a messy house made it look like a sign I was not coping. In my house if I didn’t do the cleaning then no one else was exactly going to do it so what are you suppose to do? leave the dirty pots to pile up in the sink and not wash any clothes that are covered in baby sick and you know what else?

Disclaimer: If you do have someone to do the cleaning for you then totally take up the offer and yes the cleaning can wait 🙂 Put your feet up and enjoy every moment.

Rod for your own back

I was told so many “don’ts” . I was told not to Co-sleep, not to give the baby a dummy, not to put Mole in her baby rocking chair…the list goes on. After a few weeks I ignored it all knowing the full consequences and I still do not regret any decision I have made. When it is 4am and you have been up a dozen times through the night and the only thing that will settle your baby is to sleep together I will do it. And who is anyone else to judge? No I am not making a rod for my own back by raising my baby exactly how I want thank you 🙂

Health Visitors advice

Well 99% of the advice I have received from Health Visitors has been a waste of time. I’m sure there are lovely health visitors out there but personally I am yet to come across one. Stupid questions like “Are you sleeping okay?” “Erm well no obviously I have just had a newborn baby”. “You must get some sleep” brilliant, great advice thank you. Or speaking to them about reflux and needing Mole to be sat upright was like waving a red flag at a bull. “Oh no you can’t keep a newborn upright, they have to be lay flat.”  You can’t have this or that etc you get  my point.

Google

I use Google for everything. I would Google every single symptom Mole had, I’d Google “Why is my baby not sleeping?” or “What is this mark on her?” I would stay on Google for hours scanning every single page looking for the answer. If you are doing this at 3am and you are on page 17 of Google search results I think you should stop.

Cry it out

After trying this piece fo advice I do not know who was left more traumatised me or Mole. This advice has been great for other parents I believe but not so great for me. Mole cries if she needs something or she is genuinely upset about something and leaving her to cry made matters worse. I don’t want to see my baby upset or hear her cry. I’d rather just see to her problem and then get on with making her feel better.

So there you have it. My bad parenting advice! Comment below what bad parenting advice you received!

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