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10 things i’d do differently next time I have a baby

No I am definitely not broody…well don’t ask me that question if I am around cute, little newborns or Mole is having a good day. But… I was thinking about what…

No I am definitely not broody…well don’t ask me that question if I am around cute, little newborns or Mole is having a good day. But… I was thinking about what I would do differently next time I have a baby. I wonder if you also would do the same or have experienced the same feelings as me?

This post will also be helpful for a new mum-to-be, getting some advice from a mum that had no clue at first and has learnt a lot from her mistakes!

1. Have my mum present during labour

Now I know I am only at number 1 and already doing this wrong as I did have my mum present during labour with Mole, but, I’d 100% make sure she was again. There is just something calming about having your mother there. Maybe it is because she has been through it before and can give you advice or maybe its helpful because everyone needs their mummy sometimes. Comment below if you had any parents present?

2. I will not put pressure on myself to breastfeed

Sure I will give it a go, just like I did with Mole and if it doesn’t work out I promise myself not to lose sleep over it. Mole has coped just fine on formula and it has been very easy with bottle feeding and working out a routine.

3. Get sleep before visitors!

This is a huge one for me. As soon as you have a new baby you are in a whirlwind and surviving off adrenaline and coffee. I am so grateful for all visitors, taking time out of their lives to see my baby and making sure we are all well, but, it completely floored me. I think next time I will wait a week before allowing visitors so I can get settled…or I will make them make their own drinks so I don’t have to keep getting up and going through the pain of my burning stitches sitting back down. Sorry not sorry.

4. Be more open with Baby Blues

I am so guilty of always painting a smile on my face and pretending i’m all good and next time I will not allow myself to do this. Its far too draining. I will be honest and ask for help when I need it and not try to cope on my own.

5. I will not listen to every single piece of advice

Some advice is definitely helpful however, I tried to take on board everyone’s advice and it didn’t work for me. I will learn as I go and make my own mistakes to learn from. Next time I will be more confident to trust my own instinct. This includes getting into my own routine and not follow someone else’s.

6.Take more photos!

I have no photographs of Mole right after I gave birth to her. I have some from a while later but I would love to see more from right when she came into the world. I think it would be incredible to see.

7. Not rush into decorating the nursery

When I was pregnant I had the whole room finished as I felt an urge to rush it all. When in reality the baby doesn’t even sleep in there for 6 months. I wish I took the time to plan out the nursery and not jump straight into the first style I had in mind.

8. Use a dummy straight away

I was told not to use a dummy because it can confuse the baby when they come to breastfeed. Mole loves her dummy as a comforter and it has saved us in so many situations where she has got herself worked up and the dummy has helped to calm her down. I wish I would have gave it to her sooner and saved some public meltdowns.

9. Save up

Next time around I’m going to try and put more money behind me so I can have longer off work and really cherish the moment of being able to spend it with raising my baby. I hate the fact that money controls how much time I will have off with Mole. I’d love to have longer as it is going by far too quickly now.

10. Not stress about getting my pre baby body back

I went to the gym just 2 weeks after giving birth. I was so disgusted with how I looked and I would slog myself at the gym to try and feel like the old me again. Although I have controlled what I eat to an extent and I have been active, your body does just go back over time. I will not go crazy trying to fit into my old jeans until I am truly ready and after more sleep.

I’m sure there are probably 100’s of things I will do differently next time around but these stuck out for me. What about you? Do any of these sound similar to you or would you change other things? Let me know in the comments 🙂

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My Feelings After Birth | Baby Blues

I was super chilled through out my pregnancy. I never freaked out or stressed out, I took every single day as it came and I couldn’t have been happier. But…

I was super chilled through out my pregnancy. I never freaked out or stressed out, I took every single day as it came and I couldn’t have been happier. But all that changed right after I gave birth.

My pregnancy involved me moving to a new town to live with my boyfriend as I currently lived with my parents and at the time, even though I was a few hours away from everything I knew, it didn’t seem to bother me.

My first words holding her were “oh my word what do I do??!!”

The moment Mole was placed on my chest I got scared. My first words holding her were “oh my word what do I do???” screaming out to the midwife. I had no experience with babies and I don’t even think I had held a baby before. It hit me, the huge amount of responsibility I had caring for her and I wanted to be perfect.

Struggling to breastfeed

After a few hours in hospital, the midwife came in and questioned me “have you not fed her yet?” in a stern tone. It was the “yet” in her question that stuck with me. I felt sick, I looked at Mole sleeping away in the little crib they have and thought, “why have I not fed you yet 🙁 ?” and then I thought “how do I even feed her?” I really did not have a clue what I was doing. It took me 10 minutes to struggle changing a nappy and one of the most important responsibilities as a mother is feeding your baby and I had no clue how to even do it! The feelings of excitement and happiness started fading away.

The feelings of excitement and happiness started fading away

Struggling to breastfeed at the start gave me so much anxiety. From not knowing when and how often she should be feeding to not knowing if I was doing it properly and Mole was having enough.

This feeling still lasted when I took Mole home from the hospital. As soon as I walked through the doors with her she cried and cried and cried. I was trying to feed her every 40 minutes but she was constantly hungry. I was up all night for about a week. I saw every hour of the clock. It wasn’t till I spoke to my mum on the phone at how much I was struggling caring for her when she asked “are you winding her?” I didn’t even know what this meant! Again I felt like I was doing everything wrong and as a mother I should know all of this stuff.

Flashbacks

I’m not sure if anyone else has gone through this, I kept on getting flashbacks of the birth. But the painful bit. It was like I had PTSD from birth trauma! My birth story went really well actually, I don’t even know what I’m complaining about as so many women have it bad, yet, it was the most traumatic event that had ever happened to me. I had never had that pain before for hours on end. Every movement I did afterwards that hurt triggered a memory of screaming to push Mole out. I could even feel the pain again in my mind.

The Nappy Train

Sadly, I could’t get to grips with how often I had to change Mole’s nappy. She would get so upset if she even just did a little wee in her nappy. For some reason I got this awful feeling of reflection. Spending most of my life in education to finally hold down a good job and now being off work to change countless nappies everyday. I don’t know why but it made me feel like a failure in my job.  It was hard to convince people around me as well that just because i’m off work doesn’t mean that I do nothing but watch TV all day, I am constantly changing nappies and feeding. I am raising a life. It was very hard to accept that being a mum is a full time job. Its the hardest full time job. And I am so grateful now that I can see it is the most rewarding full time job.

Mourning my old life

Writing this now, remembering the thoughts I had about missing my old life has got me in disbelief. I’ve had Mole for 5 months now and I wouldn’t want my life any other way. I am so grateful to have her and the happiness she gives me every single day. Nothing in the world can make me as happy as she can.

But, during the first few weeks I found myself mourning my previous life. My selfish life. Being able to shower when I wanted, sleep all night, go to the gym for two hours and not feel guilty. I would constantly question myself “What the hell have I done?” I’d gone from having it very cushy living with my parents and seeing my friends every weekend to being in a whole new town, not having anyone to help to caring for a newborn baby.

I would constantly question myself “What the hell have I done?”

Tears

I can’t tell you how many tears I shed during the first few weeks. Anything could set me off. The worst was when the midwife at my check up appointments would ask how my mood was and I’d get a horrible lump in my throat and then i’d spend the rest of the session not listening to her properly because I’d be trying my hardest not to cry, then as soon as the session was over I’d just burst into tears. I didn’t want people to think I wasn’t coping because so many people have babies and they all seem to handle it pretty well. I wanted to be like them. A strong mum.

I remember placing Mole on her play mat in front of the shower so I could multi-task watching her and getting to wash my hair. I’d step into the shower and cry. Looking at her whilst crying made me cry even harder because I felt guilty for crying when I was so lucky to have her. I’d get out of the shower and paint a smile on my face so know one could tell tears were streaming down my cheeks 5 minutes ago.

Symptoms of Baby Blues

I started to wonder if I had Post Natal Depression. But I didn’t have all of the main symptoms and some days were good days for me. I came across Baby Blues whilst researching my own symptoms and I fitted into this perfectly.

  • Crying for no reason
  • Irratbility
  • Anxiety
  • Insomnia
  • Poor concentration
  • Sadness
  • Restlessness
  • Impatience
  • Mood changes

It was strange really because after 2/3 weeks I felt normal. Like all of my previous feelings and struggles were just a dream. I started getting out of the house to baby classes and making new mum friends pouring my heart out to them, going on walks breathing in fresh air and began the process of loving my new life.

I wake up every single day now so content and in love. Even through the bad nights of no sleep I look at Mole and smile. I almost hate myself for ever feeling the way I did the first few weeks of her life but sometimes you can’t control what is going to happen. Hormones have a huge role to play too and i’ve accepted that I can’t blame everything on myself.

I LOVE being a mummy.

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Woodland Themed Baby Shower

I can remember being so overwhelmed with ideas for a baby shower I just didn’t know where to start! I narrowed down my ideas to wanting something rustic, natural colours…

I can remember being so overwhelmed with ideas for a baby shower I just didn’t know where to start!

I narrowed down my ideas to wanting something rustic, natural colours with pops of pink but, not too over the top yet, girlie and fun ready to celebrate my beautiful baby girl. Yes thats my version of narrowed down lol.

Things I considered before I started planning

A few other points I needed to be aware of was:

  • Will the theme suitable for all ages?
  • Will the theme fit my budget?
  • Will there be enough decorations and favours to make the theme obvious?
  • Will the decorations I plan to get fit into the space okay?

Choosing a Theme

The Woodland Theme fitted perfectly with this and I knew I had plenty of options for decorations and party favours. I had never planned a party before and this one felt extra special to me because it was for my baby, even though she was in my belly, so it had to be just right 🙂 Plus, whilst you’re pregnant with your first, you seem to have all the time in the world to spend hours looking on Amazon at artificial grass and leaves.

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Location

The Baby Shower took place in my kitchen and I invited a fair amount of guests so I had to be sure whilst there was enough food, favours and games for everyone it wasn’t too crowded in the kitchen.

I’m one of those very lucky girls who has a big island in the middle of the kitchen. I had always dreamed of this. I knew thats where I want the display and all of the guests can crowd around there plus we have extra seating in the kitchen too.

Decorations

Table Cover

I started of planning my theme by looking for a table cloth. Something green or brown to set the tone. I soon realised that I wouldn’t have even got a table cloth to fit the island. Can baby brain start when you’re pregnant? 

Instead I opted for an artificial grass runner. It was a great idea if I do say so myself. Automatically it set the scene of being outside. It’s also perfect for cutting to size and I liked the width as it didn’t cover too much of the table leaving more room for other decorations.

You can find the Artificial Grass Table Runner here: https://amzn.to/2Pt4fDm  £17.00

As there was still space on the table I used a hanging vine draped over the table, which helped with adding colour and texture.

You can find the hanging vine here: https://amzn.to/2nWdM9o £2.99

I also used bunches of leaves to hang from the TV on the wall so the decorations were not just placed on the table and it tied the whole room together.

You can find the hanging wall vine here: https://amzn.to/2MERC9H £3.99

Alternative Food Placemats

My vision was to have all different tiers of food on logs however, this because pretty pricey. Instead I purchased a few flat log disks to place different food items on. They came in a pack of 20, were rather small but brilliant for holding a mini flapjack or other nibbles!

You can find the Log Disks here: https://amzn.to/2PtD8b1  £3.25

I purchased a natural log slice that was bigger to hold a selection of mini bites on. This looked great and varied the food placing. The natural log effect helped give off the rustic vibe.

You can find the Natural log slice here: https://amzn.to/2wc5hdO  £5.99

For any other food placemats I just used plain old foiled trays that you can get from your local supermarket for pretty cheap!

Table Confetti

One of the biggest decorations for make an impact was the table confetti.

My favourite was the rustic, wooden hearts with “Baby Shower” wrote on them. I sprinkled them all over the artificial grass runner. They also do “Baby Girl” or “Baby Boy” ones too.

You can buy the Wooden Hearts here: https://amzn.to/2MH3Y0W £2.99 for 50.

Other table confetti I used was artificial flowers. I kept the colour scheme of the two flowers white and pink to keep it girlie yet not overdone.

You can find the White Flowers here: https://amzn.to/2N8q21z £0.81

You can find the Pink Flowers here: https://amzn.to/2w3Z8RM £1.79

Finishing Touches

To decorate the nibbles wire toadstools were brilliant. You can bend them to shape in any direction as if they were growing from the ground. The contrasting red colour of the toadstool was very bold compared to the neutral colours of the brownies and flapjacks.

You can find the Wire Toadstools here: https://amzn.to/2ML7IOQ £8.87

Around other food placemats I purchased some Photo Props and mini pine cones. The photo props were great as the pack contained twigs, moss and log slices.

You can find the Photo Prop here: https://amzn.to/2ML5grE £4.59

I found artificial grass animals and they looked really good with the theme! I placed them around the display. When they first arrived I was thinking oh i’m not sure what to do with these but when the display got going they fitted in perfectly.

You can find the Turf Animals here: https://amzn.to/2LgFLcZ   £8.64

Balloons

I filled the floor with pink balloons and had the main balloon attraction was a foiled ballon saying baby hanging from the lights.

You can find the Foiled Baby Balloon here: https://amzn.to/2MHcHjG £2.54

Food

The star of the show was the cake! It bought the whole theme together and it couldn’t have been more perfect. The cake was a total surprise too off my sisters.

I had biscuits from Slattery’s made that were Woodland Themed too!

And Jay’s Mum made the cutest fairy cakes!!

I had hot food on a display elsewhere in the kitchen and kept the sweet food on the display.

The personalised woodland themed chocolates looked great on the display. They tasted great too!

You can find the personalised chocolates here:  https://amzn.to/2ByF0N2 £7.80

Games and Guest Book

My guest book was actually a frame where you signed a cloud and inserted it into the frame. The only problem was that I got Sharpie pens and the ink ran on everyones clouds so I recommend a normal biro pen.

You can find the Guest Frame here:  https://amzn.to/2MIwLC5 £17.99

The Baby Shower games we played were:

  • New mum advice cards
  • How well do you know mum
  • Baby Prediction
  • Pin the dummy on the baby.

Overall the whole day was incredible. I had so much fun planning it for everyone and then putting it all together in the morning with my sister. I couldn’t have asked for a better day and I know my guests had a lovely time too!

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Top Tips For a Teething Baby

Mole is teething. It is horrendous. Mainly because i’m sad that i’m not going to see her gummy smile for much longer 🙁 We both got hit hard with the 4…

Mole is teething. It is horrendous. Mainly because i’m sad that i’m not going to see her gummy smile for much longer 🙁

We both got hit hard with the 4 month sleep regression and now this :'( TEETHING.

As Mole is my first baby I have no previous experience with a teething baby. I didn’t even know for sure whether what Mole was going through is down to teething until I found myself yet again on Google checking all her symptoms fearing for the worst.

8 Teething Symptoms

Mole has no teeth so far and I was unsure that she was teething because at 4 months old babies do a lot of exploring and learning with their mouth and she has always been one to chew her toys. I had to look out for other symptoms to be sure before I started on any pain killers for no reason.

  • Drooling a lot: I use the word drool as it sounds a lot more severe than dribble. It is so bad some days that I am beginning to think my little Mole is turning into a dog! Her clothes are soaked so we have invested in some cute dribble bibs. I like these ones because they are pink and do the job: https://amzn.to/2P5Y3Rd
  • Chewing on her hands: Scary really because she chews on her fingers that much I am surprised there is anything left of them. If she is not chewing on her own fingers then she is grabbing mine!
  • Flushed Cheeks: This one was difficult for me to notice as we had just come back off holiday and Mole had a cheeky tan. A few weeks later now we are back and the tan has gone I can see her cheeks get flushed when she is on a chewing frenzy.
  • Rubbing her face: This is one of Mole’s symptoms for when she is tired so it was a harder one to spot for teething but she has definitely started rubbing at her face in an agitated way. I have to keep checking her nails are super short so she doesn’t scratch herself.
  • Trouble sleeping: 🙁 🙁 🙁 when you just get out of the 4 month sleep regression and then get hit with this one. She really can not sleep with her teething troubles. Her naps during the day have decreased and at night she is waking up almost hourly again and when she is awake she finds it so hard to fall back to sleep again. Coffee is my best friend right now.
  • Saying NO to food: Mole is a bottle guzzler. Theres no question about it. However, She has recently started pushing the bottle away out of her mouth yet at the same time crying because she is hungry. On the other hand some days are different, which leads me onto my next point.
  • Comfort eating: If she is not pushing the bottle out of her mouth in a temper tantrum she is comfort eating. She will have her bottle even when she is not really hungry or she will have her bottle as a method to fall back to sleep. I may be in the wrong allowing myself to comfort feed my baby but when it is 3:30 in the morning and you have been up 4 times all ready, you pretty much do anything for them to fall back to sleep.
  • I have saved the best till last. Symptom number 8: Explosive poo’s! You know the kind that go up the back and through to their best clothes. TMI. But it is related.

“My mother always told me that teeth are a pain coming and going.”

6 Tips helping Mole through teething

From the second I realised Mole was teething I began to research and ask other mums what they have found to have been the best methods to help relieve their baby’s teething pain. Here are my top tips for teething that have worked for us:

  • Calpol: It is a shame this heavenly stuff doesn’t come on a drip. Now, I am the type of person who won’t take a paracetamol even if my leg is falling off, I’m just not into putting lot’s of medicine into your body if you can really get through it without it if you know what I mean. So I was reluctant to give Mole Calpol but she really needed it. Teething can be so painful for them and they are really not themselves whilst going through teething. Calpol helps to relieve her pain and I notice a big difference in her mood 15 minutes later. Giving my baby paracetamol has helped to bring Mole’s temperature down. Especially at night when she has trouble sleeping due to her pain, it has given her the chance to get her head down for a couple of hours pain free.
  • A good teether: In my opinion I have found the best teether on the market. Matchstick Monkey. They are FDA approved and BPA free. Mole only has a little mouth and so many teethers we have tried in the past haven’t worked because they are too big for her to chew, or she just gets fed up by the sight of them, but, Matchstick monkey teethers are small enough for her to hold and chew and the luminous colour catches her eye. On one side of the teether there are little bumps and she loves the texture. This side of the teether can also act as a toothbrush or an applicator for applying teething gel. There are a variety of colours of the cute little monkey’s so you can pick your favourite! I am a bit funny with making sure Mole’s dummy’s and her teether’s are clean. In the past I have put teethers in the dishwasher and they have come out stuck together and completely ruined. Matchstick Monkey’s are dishwasher safe and you can even put them in the freezer to relieve pain for your baby. Can you tell how much I love them? https://pinkmole.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/img_3808.mov
  • Letting Mole rest: I’m always up and about going places with her, whether it is attending a baby class or going shopping. I have learnt that whilst she is going through this pain just to let her rest at home. We are both not sleeping much during the night so it is just a recipe for disaster forcing ourselves to do physical activities together. Whilst she have been catching up on her sleep during the day it has given me the chance to enjoy my home and have a good chill out too. All the stuff you dream about whilst your in work.https://pinkmole.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/img_4010.mov
  • Pack extra nappies and a change of clothes: As I mentioned before one of Mole’s symptoms have been her bottom. Now I have come to terms with excepting its going to be part of my day dealing with this and getting myself prepared for the inevitable, I have coped much easier. Let’s face it, you have just spent what little money you have from your maternity pay on the cutest outfit ever for your baby and then they go all chicken korma on you. It will test your patience. Especially if you’re out without a spare change of clothes for them. 😮 .
  • Teething Gel: Mole is currently having Dentinox Teething Gel. I use a clean finger or rub it over her Matchstick Monkey to apply it to her gums. So far it can ease her pain for around 20 minutes and then you are allowed to apply more. I also believe that the taste of the teething gel distracts her from the pain for a short while too. Using the teething gel alone, has not been the best solution to completely stopping her pain, but it has helped to comfort her just a little and as Tesco would say “every little helps” 😉 .
  • I have saved the best tip till last 😀 … Lot’s of cuddles and kisses!!!!! Mole has been extra clingy whilst teething and secretly I am loving this side of her. I have been having daytime bed cuddles with her, cuddling her whilst watching Baby TV (her favourite) and holding her hand whilst out and about. There is no medicine out there like mummy’s cuddle medicine.

I hope you find some of the tips here useful!

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What is it like to be pregnant in your first trimester?

As it is #NationalBumpDay today it got me reminiscing my days when I lived as a whale, but more so, my first trimester. Especially as my symptoms were not the…

As it is #NationalBumpDay today it got me reminiscing my days when I lived as a whale, but more so, my first trimester. Especially as my symptoms were not the common ones.

Before I found out I was pregnant, I had the feeling I kind of was as it is obvious there is a chance but, I just needed it really confirming to believe it as I had some symptoms but not all so this kept my thoughts in limbo.

Early Symptoms

The first signs I got when pregnant was that I had cramping and twinges in my lower stomach, similar to period pain. This is so hard when you are unsure because you have to wait till after your due period to take the test too so it felt like it could be that time of the month soon.

Bloating

Along with the cramping came the bloating. Again very similar to mensural symptoms. Nobody likes the feel of being bloated, its so uncomfortable. Nothing I was doing was helping the bloating go, such as drinking lot’s of water.

Loss of appetite

I’m unsure whether I just was not hungry or I could not be bothered to make anything to eat. I really would try and avoid all meals, I never felt sick at all I just did not want to eat. This symptom came as a surprise as I believed that when you are pregnant all you want to do is eat!

Fatigue

Urgh. I have never, ever, until now having a 4 month old baby, experienced that level of tiredness before. i didn’t think it was humanly possible to be that tired! I like to think I am a very active person, well at that time, I went from going to the gym every single day, sometimes twice a day, obsessed much? To not being able to stand up whilst having a shower :’) I would get in from work and the first thing I would do would be to lie on my bed and then i’d sleep till the next day. I had ZERO energy!

Sense of Smell

My sense of smell was stronger. I had noticed when I was spraying perfume or going in the kitchen and the smell of the fridge was very strong, to the point where I use to think, “What on earth is in that fridge?!”. By this point of my pregnancy, I became obsessively Googling, pregnancy symptoms to see if I had any similar and this was one that came up! I wonder how many other of you out there got a sense of smell like a Bloodhound?

Pregnancy Tests

Pregnancy tests all differ depending on the brand. Some tests are stronger than others and some tests and more clearer and easier to read than others. I started taking pregnancy tests a few days after my missed period. This is early for your average pregnancy test however, I bought one that said it was sensitive enough to detect my hormone level. The tests said very clearly “not pregnant”. I still felt pregnant by now and there was no sign of my period. I decided to take another test, this time by a different brand where you had to detect two lines in the test. Negative. Before I knew it, I became a pregnancy test addict, I was taking nearly two every day and they all kept on saying negative 🙁 . Whilst researching online, I came across an article that pregnancy tests can be positive but very faint. I gave myself another week and then tried again as my period still did not show up. When taking the tests again, I posted the pictures of them into forums online to see if anyone else could see a line. I even downloaded an app that changes the colour of the lines on the test to be more clear.#desperate 

 

 

I took one last test and thought right no more now! I COULD SEE IT! a very, very, very faint line! And that was it, the start of my new life began. I was growing a little baby Mole inside my belly the whole time 😀

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Baby Sensory Class: An honest review

I’m not the type of person that likes to stay in the house all day.  After  I gave birth to Mole, one of my goals was to be able to…

I’m not the type of person that likes to stay in the house all day.  After  I gave birth to Mole, one of my goals was to be able to leave the house as it helps to break the day up and I don’t go crazy. I soon got bored of going food shopping or pushing the pram up and down the street so I asked my Health Visitor about local baby classes.

Here was her list along with my thoughts:

  • Baby Massage. Mole lay on her back? Bad idea…Thanks reflux.
  • Baby Yoga. Not really in the relaxing yogary mood.
  • Messy Play. Had to be 3 months old and there was a waiting list.
  • Dancing Tots. Babies had to be crawling.
  • Little Athletes. Too young, babies had to be able to run,
  • Musical Babies. Mole is musical enough with her constant cry.
  • Baby Sensory. No idea what this is, no current thoughts persuading me not to go. Let’s give it a try.

It was the best decision I could have made.

When I became pregnant with Mole, I moved from Manchester to Stoke. Even though my family and friends are only 2 hours away, I felt like I had moved to Australia. I was mourning my life before I had a baby. I was so selfish: I would go to the gym when I wanted, shopping when I wanted, I would eat when I wanted and even lie down on the couch all day scoffing Jaffa Cakes, watching repeats of the Kardashians on E! when I had watched the same episodes a dozen times, probably even the day before. I felt like I could not do much with a newborn or more to the point, I was not sure what I was allowed to do with a newborn. The health visitor and midwife made it clear to me that even putting your baby in a pram can result in cot death.

How did the class help?

I was super hesitant in attending the class. As with every new thing in life I have to do. But it really did change my whole outlook on motherhood. Baby sensory strengthened mine and Moles bond. Watching her interact for the first time with toys, sounds and lights filled me with so much joy. I couldn’t believe how proud I was of her for doing the smallest thing like holding a rattle. To be honest, I have more fun there than she does sometimes!

As Mole was young, the class helped me to structure my day by making sure I was awake and out of the house for a certain time. I began to notice my days going to baby sensory were easier than days spent in the house all day. I developed a day time feeding routine and soon after, Mole’s naps linked in, preparing meals linked in, doing the washing linked in. Everything fell into place and I was the happiest mother out there.

What age can your baby attend?

Mole was 8 weeks when she first joined her class and I thought she had to be much older before she was allowed as she did not have all her injections done. Babies can attend Baby Sensory from any age! There was a baby, Oscar, attending at just 3 weeks. Props to his mummy!

What does the class involve?

The class itself stimulates babies with various objects for them to touch, shake and look at. We sing lot’s of songs that the babies love to hear. At Baby Sensory we repeat two songs every week at the start and end of the session so the babies really get use to listening to it and most babies recognise it now when it comes on.

As Mole was only 8 weeks when she first joined Baby Sensory, I was so surprised at how much she interacted with everyone and all of the sensory play toys. I was so use to her at home sleeping most of the day and sitting in her bouncer that I had no idea how even at a young age she could still interact. She must have been so bored 😮 !  I went straight to Mothercare after her first class and spoilt Mole with tonnes of sensory toys to play with and the Baby Sensory play-mat.

Every class each week is different and never repeated. We have done all sorts from Pirate Parties to a Royal Wedding themed party but Mole’s favourite had to be the Cowboy Party where she got to sit on Rody the inflatable bouncing horse. She let out the most biggest burps possible bouncing up and down on the horse.

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No more tears: Tips For Travelling on a Plane with a Baby

Get your holiday off to a stress free start when travelling on a plane with a baby!   You have to first admit to yourself that travelling with a baby…

Get your holiday off to a stress free start when travelling on a plane with a baby!

 

You have to first admit to yourself that travelling with a baby is going to be harder than travelling solo. You can not predict or control everything that is going to happen.

What you can do is make what you can control easier on yourself by being prepared. Preparation is key.

Timing

The one time it is not okay to be fashionably late. Especially with a baby I can tell you from experience arriving at the very last minute adds more stress than you thought possible to the whole process.

I was frantically running from check in then to specialist luggage to drop the car seat off and then to security whilst holding a bottle feeding my baby and pushing the pram. Give yourself plenty of time. You will be able to change your babies nappy, grab a drink and walk casually to your gate rather than sprinting like its the finish line.

 

Milk

Make sure you have all of your baby’s milk to hand. If you are not breastfeeding you can prepare your bottles before you board the flight. I got ready made formula bottles ready as soon as we hit the airport. You can order  your formula at the airport from Boots so you can avoid taking up more space in your luggage. You don’t need to worry if you can take your baby’s bottles through security. Anything for a baby can be allowed through, from my experience.

Soothers

Take any soothers your baby loves with you in your hand luggage so you can grab them straight away. A dummy is great for when the air pressure changes on the plane and can make your baby cry. It is like us chewing gum 🙂 .

Mole loves her favourite pink blanket. As soon as the fabric touches her cheeks she settles straight away. You could try their favourite blanket or teddy if your baby doesn’t take to a dummy.

Toys

This one goes with out saying, long plane journeys are boring for us so obviously a baby will become bored and need entertaining. Pack their favourite toy in your hand luggage to keep them occupied.

You could even try wrapping up toys and your baby has to unwrap them. We know how much babies like to play with paper right? The extra time a baby takes to unwrap their toy, will buy you some quiet time 🙂

Travel Pillow

Planes are very uncomfortable. It is hard to make your baby comfortable in such a small space. I took a travel pillow on board with the intentions of myself using it however, I soon ended up placing Mole on it so she had somewhere comfortable to lay down.

Book your seats

Booking your seats will ensure that whoever you are travelling with can sit together. This makes it ten times easier to keep your baby and even you settled as you can take turns in holding your baby giving you a little break too. It helps when you want to reach for something in your bag or order food or a drink.

Take your pram on board

I check my car seat in at the specials luggage check in so I do not have to carry it around. Then I keep the pram with me right up until we board the plane. This is fantastic as you probably have your own luggage to carry around and it will make it ten times harder to do that whilst holding your baby, unless you prefer a sling.

Pack extra nappies and a cosy outfit

You want your baby when travelling on a plane to be comfortable. Make sure before you board the plane you have changed their nappy so they feel fresh. I always put Mole in a cosy sleep suit so she is very warm on the air conditioned plane.

Dressing your baby in a sleep suit helps to save time when you are changing their nappy as you do not have a complicated outfit to undress and then put back on them.

 

Don’t be afraid to walk up and down the plane

Walking up and down with your baby on a plane when they are unsettled will help to give them a change of scenery and distract them. Walking will give you a chance to stretch your legs a bit too.

Preparation is Key

If you prepare and have everything to have in your hand luggage your journey will be easier. Remember that if you do have a really bad journey, they are only babies and you won’t have to come across the people on your flight ever again 🙂

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What’s in a name: A Guide to choosing the perfect baby name

Being a parent is full of tough of decisions and you even have to face one very, important decision before or as soon as your baby is born. Naming your…

Being a parent is full of tough of decisions and you even have to face one very, important decision before or as soon as your baby is born. Naming your baby.

How to decide what is the best name for your baby when you haven’t even met your baby yet? You may even become overwhelmed with suggestions from relatives and friends or love more than one name and you just can’t pick between them.

I can remember before we set on the name Molly, I had tonnes of different names I liked. At one point I wanted to call her Zara … not sure if that had anything to do with my favourite shop lol. 

I must have downloaded every Baby Name App possible and spent my time scanning through the top names and when that wasn’t enough, I began to search for the top baby names with happy meanings or the top floral baby names. Oh I miss how much free time I had when I was pregnant.

The hard part is that you might have had your heart set on a name for years. As a child I remember discussing with my friends what we wanted to call our babies and now all of a sudden that name is taken away from you because your partner or mother-in-law hates it. For me this happened with the name River. Yes its unusual but, I just love it so I am going to try again in getting my way when I have another baby. I am stubborn 🙂 .

Its all the hype what celebrities are naming their babies. We wait anxiously for them to reveal their babies names and then talk non stop about it for days afterwards with friends. I am even guilty of religiously watching E News! to find out what the Kardashians have named their babies. And for the record, no one can ever say a bad word about them to me, I love all of their babies names with True and North being my favourite names.

Let’s take choosing a babies name seriously now. I have came up with a few questions below that you actually need to consider. Once that name has been registered, it is very difficult to go back.

Will the name suit your baby when they are an adult?

Many names can be very cute and adorable for babies however, do they age well? By that I mean, will the name still be suitable when they are much older? Can the name be used in a professional situation? Can you imagine them being called the name at a boardroom meeting or as a head teacher for example? Names like Teddy couldn’t be any cuter for a baby boy but, Ted is more suitable for an adult?

Embarrassing nicknames?

Can the name easily lead to an embarrassing nickname? The last thing you want is for when your baby is old enough to attend school, they get taunted in class for their name. You may even know someone that had an embarrassing nickname growing up and you would not want that to be your child. You can start to rhyme your intended name with common words first to see if any embarrassing nicknames come to your head. Examples: Silly Billy, Smelly Kelly, Bart Fart.

Does the name suit your intended surname?

This is a big point. Maybe I should have moved this to number one? I can not begin to tell you how many children I have come across in my line of work where I have had to double check that is their name, as when paired with their surname it just does not work. 😮 Let me give you some examples and I doubt you will need a further explanation…Richard Felt, Ben Dover, Neil Downs.

Funny initial names

Along with my previous point, surnames can play havoc too with the initials. You may want to spend a thought on what will the initials spell out when I name my baby? Why is this important? Well you may use your initials on your luggage tag or scholarly papers. Here are some funny examples…Chris Orson Williams (COW), Frankie Mark Lawson (FML), Lewis Oliver Laing (LOL).

Uniqueness 

Is your baby name unique or when your baby gets to school are you going to have another 5 students in the class with the same name as your child? You can check how popular your name is by searching for the most popular names in your current year. Whilst searching for a unique name you may want to consider is it too unique? Will people be able to pronounce the name? Are there too many different versions of spelling? Or have you made a popular name unique by changing the spelling? In that case are you going to be constantly checking people will the correct spelling?

What is right for you.

At the end of the day it is completely up to you. If you like the sound of the name and you can imagine your son or daughter with that name then go for it! You may even have deep significance with then name and your connection to the name is too strong to even care what the initials spell out to be.

Its completely normal to change your mind on the baby’s name 5000 times before you finally decide. You probably will end up going back to the first one you picked and then you have to see if you and your other half both agree on it 😀

Once you are settled on a name you can even start to shop for personalised clothing or nursery decorations for your baby. You can start referring to your bump as the baby’s name which can help with bonding.

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Introducing Molly Mole

Molly  (Mole)   Born on 26th March 2018 at 4:29am 7.11 lbs of amazingness!!! 😀 As I am writing this she is 16 weeks old and time is flying far…

Molly  (Mole)

 

Born on 26th March 2018 at 4:29am

7.11 lbs of amazingness!!! 😀

As I am writing this she is 16 weeks old and time is flying far too quick. I never realised when people use to tell me to cherish every moment because they are all grown up before you know it, how fast that actually was 😮 !

I am guilty of snapshotting her every day, I have even had to pay for extra iCloud storage 😮 . Scrolling through my camera feed in awe of her forever changing face, she’s leaving the newborn baby look now and becoming more like the babies on the adverts you see on TV. Imagine if adults we aged that quickly? Oh no I hope I don’t. 

 

Her eyes are still blue but slowly changing green/brown. She has a coloboma in her right eye at the front and at the back. The doctor described it bluntly as two holes in her eye. This is developed from the first few weeks of her in my belly. The iris forms in a circle and basically the circle did not close. Mole is under tests for her vision, but as she is so small, we won’t find out how strong her vision is in that eye until she can tell us herself.

Her hair is very light brown and some days she decides to be auburn. Although looking at her now she is pretty bald. Where did all her hair go? It’s okay Mole, Mummy is losing her hair too. Thanks postpartum hair loss. 

Molly has found her voice the past two weeks and spends most of her spare time now gurgling and screaming away. I even heard her laugh for the first time yesterday. IT WAS MY FAVOURITE MOMENT IN LIFE EVER. I frantically scream her Daddy to come upstairs to listen too 😀 .

Molly’s  hobby’s are flying around as an aeroplane, she literally screams with joy and then lets dribble fall out all over me and her dad depending on who is holding her up. She has recently taken an interest in toys now, mainly rattles and textured books. It is so heart warming watching her play.

Her favourite thing in the entire world is a fluffy pink blanket from Aldi. She clings on to it everywhere and sometimes won’t sleep without it. I dread putting it in the wash incase she doesn’t like it anymore once its clean. i’ve convinced myself this, Maybe its a subconscious reason not to add an extra item to the forever over flowing washing basket.

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