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Travelling With A One Year Old: Your Questions Answered

Travelling with a one year old is not going to be easy. If your one year old is anything like my little Mole, they will not entertain being strapped in…

Travelling with a one year old is not going to be easy. If your one year old is anything like my little Mole, they will not entertain being strapped in for a long period of time. So whether you are travelling by a car or by a plane you have a challenge on your hands.

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What can you do?

Firstly, really have a think about your current one year olds development. All toddlers develop at different rates so one thing that works for one may not work for another.

How do you keep a one year old entertained on a flight?

I had a good think about what Mole currently loves to do. Reading, stickers, dancing and playing with my things like sunglasses. I focused her toys for around that, rather than something like stacking cups or teddies which she is not fully into just yet.

Toys and Books

I went shopping before the trip so specifically to find her some new activity books and toys. Although not cost friendly, this was great as she was fully interested in what the new toy did.

Here is a toy I recommend: Activity Toy

Here is a book I recommend: Three Little Pigs Touch and Feel

We also had a cheap pair of baby sunglasses for her to play with putting them on and off and I wasn’t worried if they got broke (which they did) but so worth it to pass the time.

Downloading TV Programmes

One piece of advice I was told time and time again was to download something for her to watch. We did, but this did not answer our prayers when she was playing up. Mole only watched something for around 6 minutes and then she lost interest. Which to be fair, is exactly what she does when she is watching something at home too. It was great to have the option readily available.

travelling with a toddler

We also entertained her with the “Peppa Pig App”. There is a painting section where you can swipe your fingers all over the phone screen to create pictures. (Easier on a tablet/iPad). This was far more suited for Mole as she was busy moving her hands.

Snack Options

Snacks are another great way to pass the time. Although not the healthiest option, Mole had crisps. I cant actually believe how well they entertained her. She loved trying to take one out of the packet. We did the same with raisins. Basically any snacks that take a while to eat. Avoid chocolate, chocolate gets very messy on a warm plane.

Tips for a child who does not like staying still?

This is Mole all over. On the first flight I felt like I had to be strict with her, making sure she was sat still on my knee, constantly occupied with one of her toys or books. It did not work. In fact, fighting against her wanting to move around just made matters worse. The tantrums were next level and being pregnant with a one year old having a full blown tantrum on my knee was no fun. Here is what I did instead:travelling with a toddler

For the flight home, we travelled early evening instead of mid day. The day of the flight, I let her crawl/walk everywhere. We were in the hotel lobby for some time watching her crawl around. I then made sure she had a nappy. Just a short one to prevent her being over tired. Then I did the same thing at the airport, let her crawl around everywhere (where it was safe and easy to do so). She was absolutely filthy but worn out.

On the flight, she would stand on my knees and peek her head over the top of the chairs to get attention off the other passengers. I let her do it for the sake of three easy hours of no tantrums.

I even let her sit on my seat whilst I sat in the footwell just so she did not feel as restricted.

Being calmer myself, seemed to have a big impact on her. I didn’t fuss over her once like I did going out. I didn’t keep handing her a toy until she really wanted it and the same for her snacks. I think toddlers can play up on your emotions.

What to do for the take off?

travelling with a toddler

I packed a bottle of milk to help reassure her and to help with her ears popping. She actually got really excited when the plane was taking off, turning around and giving the biggest smile ever like she was on the ride of her life.

When the air pressure changed, I tried to give her a dummy but she wasn’t interested so we just stuck with the bottle of milk.

What did you pack in your hand luggage?

I had one hand luggage for the plane which was my straw beach bag. I had nothing for myself except for my phone. Everything was for Mole, her lunchbox with snacks, water cup, milk, Calpol, 3 books (picture, touch and feel, and a sticker book) and any other toys. I also packed her favourite blanket but it was so hot on both flights we didn’t bother getting it out.

You can take as liquid for your child as you need to. At security I just placed all her liquids in a tray and that was that.

Did you take a Stroller to the airport?

Yes we did, this is the Stroller we took with us: Mamas and Papas Stroller

I highly recommend it! Very easy to put up and down, all one piece and light weight. No issues at all using it the whole holiday.

The reason I got a stroller is because our current pram was very expensive, heavy and not as easy to manoeuvre as a stroller. We did take this pram with us on holiday when Mole was a newborn and it was better suited.

What did you do about a car seat travelling abroad?

We took this car seat: Britax Romer Car Seat 

We mainly used the car seat for the taxi in the UK. I wanted to decrease the time Mole spent on my knee when I knew she was going to be on my knee for three hours on the plane.

In Portugal, they had their own safety regulations with car seats and our private transfer wanted to use their own. Some transfers stated that you need to bring a car seat or you can not travel with them

On the shuttle bus to the beach Mole sat on my knee.

What clothes did you take for your toddler on holiday?

I recorded a YouTube Video showing you all the clothes I took for my toddler.

I would recommend planning outfits for day time and evening on each day with a few spares so you know not to over or under pack.

What did you do about taking swim nappies, nappies and formula?

Formula

Mole is on whole cows milk. As I was unsure when the next time I would be able to pick up a fresh bottle, I opted to pack a couple of these ready made formula bottles.

This was super easy for when we arrived as I felt like I didn’t have to race out to find a shop for milk.

When Mole turned one I stopped sterilising her bottles. You can now buy portable sterilisers if you need one.

Swim Nappies

I packed two packs of little swimmers in our suitcase.

Nappies

The duration of our holiday was 7 days. I packed 18 nappies and ran out pretty quickly as she hated wearing a wet swim nappy and the first few days being in a wet swim nappy was making her sore.

If you can pack more in your suitcase or order them to be delivered from Boots in the airport. We ended up having to buy a pack of nappies out there for $25.00 and they may as well have been made out of tissue paper. travelling with a toddler

Final Advice

My final advice will be you can not control to an extent what is going to happen so please do not stress about it. On the flight out Mole was horrendous. She screamed the whole time and she has toys, snacks, Calpol, milk…everything.

You will never see the people on your flight again so if they turn around and give you evils (which we had a lot of) do not care. At the end of the day you can only do your best and toddlers are very strong willed.

The flight home was the opposite. Mole was a dream, giggling the whole way. I was dreading that flight to the point where I was feeling so sick, as the first flight was so bad and now I think back and it was all over nothing as she was fine.

Give yourself plenty of time in getting there and try to take turns with your partner if you can.

Feel free to read my previous blog on flying with a baby when Mole was younger.

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The worst parenting advice for new mums

Have you recently had a baby? Congratulations! I’ve just had a baby too, well 5 months ago now and I can finally say I have started to get the hang…

Have you recently had a baby? Congratulations! I’ve just had a baby too, well 5 months ago now and I can finally say I have started to get the hang of motherhood now and I honestly never thought I would ever be able to say that. Especially in the first 3 months. That was the hardest for me.

I attended one of my friends baby shower the other day and she had an “Advice Book” for guests to leave a piece of advice in their about motherhood. Considering I have just been in the baby bubble recently my mind went blank. It reminded me, really clearly, about the new mum wilderness and the wasteland of parenting advice I received.

As soon as you announce you are pregnant advice comes at you from all angles. Well it did at me. I got opinions left right and centre. I was judged on every decision I made.? Advice?came from anyone. An old lady in the doctors waiting room, a cashier at the supermarket, the midwife, my family and of course I became obsessed with anything baby/new mum related on the Internet, magazines? and apps. (I literally think I had every pregnancy app going.)

And the thing is, most of it is terrible. But when you are a first time mum it?s difficult to tell. You just want to be a sponge and absorb everything you are told so you can try to do a perfect job. What is the worst advice?you could give to new mums?

Here’s mine 😀

Sleep When the Baby Sleeps

How many people have been told this? I still get told this 5 months on :O . It’s like its everybody’s favourite piece of advice to give you. They put their hand on your arm and tilt their head whist saying it in a calm yet patronising tone. Well these people must not have had a baby in a very long time because it is not that easy. I tried. In reality when your baby naps that is the only time you get to do anything such as have a shower, eat, clean, you know, basic human needs. By the time you fall asleep for your own nap your baby will wake up again anyway. Literally no point.

The cleaning can wait

Erm no. No the cleaning can not wait. I refuse to live in a pig sty. It’s bad enough being horrendously tired with a million and one visitors to see the baby and your house being a tip. For me, a messy house made it look like a sign I was not coping. In my house if I didn’t do the cleaning then no one else was exactly going to do it so what are you suppose to do? leave the dirty pots to pile up in the sink and not wash any clothes that are covered in baby sick and you know what else?

Disclaimer: If you do have someone to do the cleaning for you then totally take up the offer and yes the cleaning can wait 🙂 Put your feet up and enjoy every moment.

Rod for your own back

I was told so many “don’ts” . I was told not to Co-sleep, not to give the baby a dummy, not to put Mole in her baby rocking chair…the list goes on. After a few weeks I ignored it all knowing the full consequences and I still do not regret any decision I have made. When it is 4am and you have been up a dozen times through the night and the only thing that will settle your baby is to sleep together I will do it. And who is anyone else to judge? No I am not making a rod for my own back by raising my baby exactly how I want thank you 🙂

Health Visitors advice

Well 99% of the advice I have received from Health Visitors has been a waste of time. I’m sure there are lovely health visitors out there but personally I am yet to come across one. Stupid questions like “Are you sleeping okay?” “Erm well no obviously I have just had a newborn baby”. “You must get some sleep” brilliant, great advice thank you. Or speaking to them about reflux and needing Mole to be sat upright was like waving a red flag at a bull. “Oh no you can’t keep a newborn upright, they have to be lay flat.”? You can’t have this or that etc you get? my point.

Google

I use Google for everything. I would Google every single symptom Mole had, I’d Google “Why is my baby not sleeping?” or “What is this mark on her?” I would stay on Google for hours scanning every single page looking for the answer. If you are doing this at 3am and you are on page 17 of Google search results I think you should stop.

Cry it out

After trying this piece fo advice I do not know who was left more traumatised me or Mole. This advice has been great for other parents I believe but not so great for me. Mole cries if she needs something or she is genuinely upset about something and leaving her to cry made matters worse. I don’t want to see my baby upset or hear her cry. I’d rather just see to her problem and then get on with making her feel better.

So there you have it. My bad parenting advice! Comment below what bad parenting advice you received!

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