No I am definitely not broody…well don’t ask me that question if I am around cute, little newborns or Mole is having a good day. But… I was thinking about what I would do differently next time I have a baby. I wonder if you also would do the same or have experienced the same feelings as me?
This post will also be helpful for a new mum-to-be, getting some advice from a mum that had no clue at first and has learnt a lot from her mistakes!
1. Have my mum present during labour
Now I know I am only at number 1 and already doing this wrong as I did have my mum present during labour with Mole, but, I’d 100% make sure she was again. There is just something calming about having your mother there. Maybe it is because she has been through it before and can give you advice or maybe its helpful because everyone needs their mummy sometimes. Comment below if you had any parents present?
2. I will not put pressure on myself to breastfeed
Sure I will give it a go, just like I did with Mole and if it doesn’t work out I promise myself not to lose sleep over it. Mole has coped just fine on formula and it has been very easy with bottle feeding and working out a routine.
3. Get sleep before visitors!
This is a huge one for me. As soon as you have a new baby you are in a whirlwind and surviving off adrenaline and coffee. I am so grateful for all visitors, taking time out of their lives to see my baby and making sure we are all well, but, it completely floored me. I think next time I will wait a week before allowing visitors so I can get settled…or I will make them make their own drinks so I don’t have to keep getting up and going through the pain of my burning stitches sitting back down. Sorry not sorry.
4. Be more open with Baby Blues
I am so guilty of always painting a smile on my face and pretending i’m all good and next time I will not allow myself to do this. Its far too draining. I will be honest and ask for help when I need it and not try to cope on my own.
5. I will not listen to every single piece of advice
Some advice is definitely helpful however, I tried to take on board everyone’s advice and it didn’t work for me. I will learn as I go and make my own mistakes to learn from. Next time I will be more confident to trust my own instinct. This includes getting into my own routine and not follow someone else’s.
6.Take more photos!
I have no photographs of Mole right after I gave birth to her. I have some from a while later but I would love to see more from right when she came into the world. I think it would be incredible to see.
7. Not rush into decorating the nursery
When I was pregnant I had the whole room finished as I felt an urge to rush it all. When in reality the baby doesn’t even sleep in there for 6 months. I wish I took the time to plan out the nursery and not jump straight into the first style I had in mind.
8. Use a dummy straight away
I was told not to use a dummy because it can confuse the baby when they come to breastfeed. Mole loves her dummy as a comforter and it has saved us in so many situations where she has got herself worked up and the dummy has helped to calm her down. I wish I would have gave it to her sooner and saved some public meltdowns.
9. Save up
Next time around I’m going to try and put more money behind me so I can have longer off work and really cherish the moment of being able to spend it with raising my baby. I hate the fact that money controls how much time I will have off with Mole. I’d love to have longer as it is going by far too quickly now.
10. Not stress about getting my pre baby body back
I went to the gym just 2 weeks after giving birth. I was so disgusted with how I looked and I would slog myself at the gym to try and feel like the old me again. Although I have controlled what I eat to an extent and I have been active, your body does just go back over time. I will not go crazy trying to fit into my old jeans until I am truly ready and after more sleep.
I’m sure there are probably 100’s of things I will do differently next time around but these stuck out for me. What about you? Do any of these sound similar to you or would you change other things? Let me know in the comments 🙂
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