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How do I get my baby into a nap routine?

Most new mums burning question: “How do I get my baby into a nap routine?” As soon as Mole hit three months I began working on her nap routine. I…

Most new mums burning question:

“How do I get my baby into a nap routine?”

As soon as Mole hit three months I began working on her nap routine. I felt like it was important for the both of us. I could get my me time back and Mole would be less grouchy in the evenings.

Baby nap time routine

Most three-to six-month-olds will sleep for around 15 hours a day, including regular naps throughout.

According to parenting experts your baby ideally needs three sleeps totalling no more than five hours.

Working on a nap routine

To get Mole to have three naps a day was well out of our reach. It was hard enough getting her to go down for one let alone three.

I focussed on her first nap and what ever else happened was an added bonus.

The key to her napping was to notice the signs of when she is tired. At around 9:45am I place her on her play mat if she is not already there and study her.

Baby nap time routine

Signs my baby is tired

  • Rubbing their eyes
  • Cycling their legs
  • Clasp their hands
  • Rubbing their face
  • Begin to be vocal
  • Moan and groan
  • Shout
  • Cry
  • Loss of interest in toys

Morning nap

When Mole displays these signs I take her straight up to her cot. It’s a good idea to have a warm bottle prepared too (I usually make this at 9:40am).

Baby nap time routine

The key is to take her up as she is displaying the start of these signs e.g. moaning not shouting. As you get use to what you need to look out for the whole process is easier. I can tell within three seconds of looking at her if she needs a nap now.

If you wait till they are shouting then you run the risk of them being over tired and getting them to nap in a cot becomes a nightmare.

Ensuring their room is dark is a signal to your baby that sleep is needed. I will give Mole her bottle and blanket. The majority of the time she falls straight to sleep after her bottle.

Afternoon nap

Mole’s afternoon nap is a different story. It is much harder to get her down for this nap compared to the morning nap.

She does not display the window of tiredness signs as she does in the morning so what I did was work out a time that is best for both of us.

2:00pm. I know that she has had her dinner, nappy change and playtime after dinner. I also know that she is probably ready for her next bottle. I take her to her room and place her in the cot and feed her the bottle. This time she rarely falls asleep on the bottle so I have to give her a kiss and leave the room.

50% of the time she will talk herself to sleep and I love listening through the door at her cute conversation.

Feeling like you are failing

The other 50% of the time she will cry and scream. I have learnt that if she has had all of her bottle I can leave her for 5-10 minutes and then I go back and check on her. Usually I have to go and distract myself and put the washing in or let the dog outside as hearing her cry upsets me and I give into myself and bring her down stairs. Luckily she ends up falling asleep. I have the lollipop baby camera so I can check up on her on my phone without going in and disturbing her.

Nap time

If Mole is still awake and not settled then I will check her nappy, offer her more bottle and try again.

I never put pressure of myself to make the routine perfect. If the second nap fails I simply take her back down for more playtime and make sure she is in bed for the night at an earlier time.

Failing baby nap time

What are good nap times?

Good nap times are around the “window of tiredness”. This tends to be 90 minutes after first waking in the morning, 30 minutes to 60 after the lunchtime feed and at 4-5pm in the afternoon.

You will work out what times work for you both.

Nap time tips

  • Look out for your baby rubbing their eyes
  • Have a warm bottle prepared
  • Make sure the room is dark
  • Lavender sleep spray can help them associate it is time to sleep
  • Consistency! I stayed in for 2 weeks putting her in her cot at the same time every day.
  • Do not give in straight away. Try to distract yourself whilst they cry and learn to self settle for the first 5 minutes.
  • Fresh nappy
  • You don’t have to change them back into their pjs.
  • Make the house as quiet as possible whilst they are trying to sleep.
  • Invest in a baby monitor Baby nap time tips

I hope you enjoyed reading! Comment below your nap time tips 😊.

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10 things no one tells you about childbirth

When I was pregnant I would spend my time researching everything to do with childbirth. I wanted to be sure that I knew everything. Nothing was going to surprise me…

When I was pregnant I would spend my time researching everything to do with childbirth. I wanted to be sure that I knew everything. Nothing was going to surprise me when the time would come to go to the hospital. I would even spend nights watching One Born Every Minute so I was clued up on different scenarios.

But, from my experience there was 10 things no one told me about childbirth. I wonder if you agree with them too!

1.You do not rush to the hospital

From the first moment I experienced my first contraction I expected that my baby was about to come within 5 minutes. The race to the hospital was on! Wrong. You have to time your contractions until they are the correct lengths and time apart. This can take hours! I waited all day and when I turned up barely being able to walk, the hospital still wanted to send me back home.

2. Waters don’t always gush

In films whenever a lady’s water breaks there is the biggest gush of water leaving a pool on the floor. Not always the case. Some women only experience a little trickle of their water breaking. That’s usually down to the break being at the top of the sac. My waters didn’t even break on their own. The midwife popped them during the final stages of my labour. Other than my baby’s head crowning, it was one of the most painful experiences of my life! The pressure felt like I was going to burst open!

3. It feels like you need to go for a number 2

Is this TMI? I don’t know? But it’s true! No one told me this! When your contractions start it can feel like you need to go to the toilet. I kept going to the toilet but nothing was happening because that’s just how going into labour felt. I was also really embarrassed at the time thinking I had an off stomach that had come completely at the wrong time!

4. The waiting game

Labour can last for ages and ages. I was in labour for 12 hours. Whilst you are there on the hospital bed in absolute agony, whoever is by your side will be watching TV, eating crisps and just chilling. The time for you passes by and you are so focused on breathing techniques. But your birthing partner will feel the process is lasting a lifetime.

5. Placenta delivery

I knew after delivering a baby you have to then deliver your placenta. What I didn’t know what how painful this is. I also didn’t know that this can lead to more complications. Even after having a natural birth, you could still go to theatre to deliver the placenta.

6. Stitches

Ouch. I don’t have to tell you how much this hurts because I’m sure you can imagine. I had no idea that I was going to be lay down with my legs open for a good 40 minutes whilst the midwife figured out how to stitch up my complicated tear.

7. Blood

I was not prepared for the amount of blood loss. Even after birth. You will go through mummy pads as much as your newborn will go through nappies.

8. Birth plan goes out the window

You have no control and there is no point getting your hopes up. You have to go with the flow and trust your midwife. If you can get a say then brilliant. But do not be disheartened when things do not go exactly how you want.

9. Feeding your baby after birth

As a first time mum, I was unaware of how often to feed and how long for. During antenatal classes I learnt how to breastfeed. Daft right? I didn’t even have a baby to practice with. I assumed as soon as I had given birth I would begin to breastfeed. Little did I know that me and my baby would both need practice. And well, even after practice we both couldn’t get it. That’s okay! Other methods of feeding your baby are available with NO judgement. Just do what works best for YOU.

10. Pure emotion

People talk about how it is the best feeling in the world to give birth to your baby and that is so true. But I couldn’t believe the range of emotions felt. You can go from being scared to happy pretty quickly. Even after you have given birth you still feel overwhelmed with emotions.

Let me know what people didn’t tell you about childbirth!

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Baby Bath Time Essentials

When I use to think of a bath, the word relaxing came to mind. But as a first time mum, when I first bathed Mole she was a slippery fish…

When I use to think of a bath, the word relaxing came to mind. But as a first time mum, when I first bathed Mole she was a slippery fish and it was more nerve-wracking than relaxing.

Now we are a few months down the line with plenty of bath times under our belt, I feel I have found the right items to have by my side at bath time.

Bath time is a fun bonding routine and has definitely helped with establishing a strong bed time routine.

Baby Bath Time Checklist

Here are my bath time baby essentials to keep your baby safe and comfy whilst you get your them squeaky clean.

  • Baby bath tub or seat
  • Soft sponge
  • Soft hooded towel
  • Baby shampoo
  • Baby wash
  • Baby bubblebath
  • Thermometer
  • Bath toys
  • Rinsing Cup

My Bath Time Favourite Products For Mole

Angelcare soft touch bath support

baby bath seat

I love this one by Angelcare. Mole has used this every bath time since she was a newborn baby. I feel so safe bathing her in this and she has the freedom to splash her legs and have fun.

Baby Bath Soft Sponge

baby sponge

This sponge is super soft on her delicate skin. I also use the sponge to rinse off her shampoo too as I find using a rinsing cup always gets too much water down her face and shampoo into her eyes.

Baby Bath Hooded Towel

I have tried lot’s of cheap hooded towels from B&M and Aldi but they do not stay soft after a wash. My favourite is this one from Marks and Spencer. Its sooooooo soft.

Baby Wash, Shampoo and Bubblebath

If you have read one of my previous blog posts on Mole’s sensitive skin you will already know one of my favourite bath time products.

I love Childs Farm and for bubbles, wash and shampoo. They are a brilliant all rounder and have done wonders to her sensitive skin. They have a range of different scents but the strawberry mint has to be our fave.

Recently I was very hesitant to try Mole with another brand after knowing Childs Farm works so well. I picked up some products from Love Boo. OH MY WORD, they are gorgeous. Mole has used the bubble bath, body wash and massage oil and they smell incredible. Just like a baby scent. Her skin has not flared up once which is the biggest bonus. So if you fancy a bath time was for your baby that has a stronger scent that I definitely recommend Love Boo.

love boo baby body wash

Baby Bath Thermometer 

baby bath thermometer

This has been a life saver. Our hot tap always runs near to boiling. I feel at ease knowing I have the correct temperature for Mole’s bath by using the thermometer rather than doing an elbow or wrist check. The thermometer is digital and states what the temperate range needs to be if you ever forget.

Baby Bath Toys

baby bath toys

Mole loves to play with rubber ducks. The rubber ducks work as great teething toys too. She even has to hold onto one whilst I get her ready into her pyjamas. Simple and cheap.

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10 things about Mole

Get to know Mole! I thought I’d share with you 10 different things about my lovely, little Mole so you can get to know her a little bit more 😀…

Get to know Mole!

I thought I’d share with you 10 different things about my lovely, little Mole so you can get to know her a little bit more 😀

  1. Her favourite food is Cauliflower Cheese Puree. Its the one food I can always guarantee she will eat even on her fussy days.
  2. She’s a nosey parker. Whenever we are in restaurants or cafes, she always has to swivel her head and watch what everybody else is doing.
  3. Mole has a webbed toe. It is her little toe and i’m not sure what to do about it really. We have had the option for it to be separated but at the moment its not bothering her so I have left it be.
  4. Mole is obsessed with my iPhone which has resulted in her getting a pretend VTech mobile off her Grandma
  5. Her favourite song is Charlie and the Numbers from BabyTV. Even if I just sing the first number she smiles.
  6. Her first word was Mama ❤️ and her second word was Dada.
  7. When we went to Chester Zoo her favourite animal was the giraffe. She was mesmerised by how big they were.
  8. Mole has visited 2 other countries. France when she was 6 weeks old and Majorca when she was 4 months old. Very lucky baby.
  9. Mole hates peas. HATES them.
  10. When Mole use to go in the sunlight she would always squint her eyes like a little Mole and her nickname stuck even more.
  11. Ok, I know I said 10 things but I couldn’t miss this one off… Jay and I rarely call her Molly. If it’s not Mole, Moley or Mole rat then it’s Suzie because we think she looks like a Suzie.

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Mum Beauty Tips | Perfect Flawless Base For Makeup

Whether you are pregnant, a new mum or you have been a mum for a while now you can’t help but look at past photos of yourself and wonder what…

Whether you are pregnant, a new mum or you have been a mum for a while now you can’t help but look at past photos of yourself and wonder what happened.

When morning arrives after another sleepless night, you have to get up and carry on as normal.  Including attempting to look like your old self.

Honestly, there is a part of me that does not care as much about my appearance as I use to, probably down to time. But when I do make an effort to wear makeup I want it to look perfect.

I have worked as a Makeup Artist for Bobbi Brown. To achieve a great makeup application is all down to the base and what products you use on your skin. I now spend more time applying skin care than applying my makeup.

My Skincare Routine for a flawless base

After many years of serial buying skincare products I have now found my holy grails. As a mum, I keep my skincare routine as minimal as possible. I use products that make a difference quickly so I have more time with my baby than getting ready.

I have to thank the lovely lady at Clarins. One shopping trip day, I walked into the store and she asked if I was okay. I poured my heart out whining about how crap I felt, because of all of the sleepless nights with Mole.

I’m usually put off by the sales pitches at the stores however, I gave in and bought everything she suggested to make my skin look awake and flawless under make-up.

I am so glad I did. My drained, tired, lifeless new mummy skin has gone.

Step 1

Clarins Multi Active Eye Cream (£35)

The cyro-metalic tip is ultra cooling under the eyes. Applying it feels instantly refreshing and the cooling tip helps to reduce puffiness.

One of the main ingredients is Teasel. Which has been proven to reduce dark circles and puffiness caused by fatigue and stress.

I have found that my concealer lasts longer when I wear an eye cream. I love how this eye cream is not too oily. An oily eye cream will cause your concealer to crease and define your under eye wrinkles even more.

Step 2

Clarins Multi Active Face Cream (£42)

My skin is combination. I get a very oily T-Zone which drives me crazy. I have tried moisturisers for dry skin as the rest of my face is dry but, they have been too rich for me. My makeup would slide off through out the day.

Moisturisers for oily skin have not been successful on me either. They are not hydrating enough. My makeup would stick to dry patches on my face enhancing my blotches.

The consistency of the Clarins Multi Active Face is lightweight. I barely feel it sitting heavy on my skin. It leaves a velvety finish allowing my foundation to glide on smoothly.

Step 3

Booster Energy (£15)

This is a highly concentrated formula. It feels like a hybrid between an oil and a serum. I either mix it into my moisturiser or apply straight after.

Clarins Booster Energy is formulated with Ginseng extract, a legendary Chinese medicinal plant known for thousands of years for its stimulating properties that help to re-energize your skin, minimize signs of fatigue and revive radiance.

My skin instantly feels hydrated and fresh. I love how there is no greasy residue afterwards.

I would love to hear what your favourite skin care products are for a flawless make-up base!

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Does my baby need to take vitamins?

I have been weaning Mole since she was 4 1/2 months old. Now she has turned 6 months old and is depending on more solid foods. I have been wondering…

I have been weaning Mole since she was 4 1/2 months old. Now she has turned 6 months old and is depending on more solid foods. I have been wondering if my baby is getting all the vitamins she needs daily to grow healthy and strong and does my baby need to take vitamins?

Do babies need vitamin supplements?

Breast milk or formula provide all the vitamins a baby needs for the first 6 months. Except for vitamin D which the Health Visitor advised me to supplement Mole with whilst I was breastfeeding. My baby quickly moved on to formula milk. As she was getting more that 32 ounces a day she did not need to supplement vitamin D any longer.

Vitamins for babies aged 6 months and over

Usually babies who eat lot’s of different foods don’t need to supplement with extra vitamins as you will be surprised by how much vitamins they actually get from their food. Now that Mole eats a variety of food I have been more aware of what I am feeding her, making sure it is nutritious (except the odd chocolate pud pud here and there).

However, some meal times, especially if she is teething, I find that her appetite is not strong. I worry that she is not getting her daily vitamins and after dropping more of her formula feeds to depend on food. I know that I can’t keep relaying on her formula to provide this.

The Department of Health recommends that all children aged 6 months to 5 years are given vitamin supplements containing vitamins A, C and D every day. (NHS)

I have been giving Mole Wellbaby Multi-Vitamin Liquid Formula which includes vitamins A, C and D. This multivitamin supports rapid physical growth and development of bones, muscles, blood and the brain. The main nutrients are iron and vitamin D. Helping to support cognitive development and strengthen their immune systems.

The Wellbaby Multi-vitamin is so easy to use too. I put 5ml into her bottle and she doesn’t even notice it is in there. Win win!

Vitamins for 3-6 years

Those that have older children will know the struggle it is to get them to eat all their veggies. You may find yourself in the same position in wondering if they are getting their daily vitamins to help them grow and develop strong.

I was gifted a box of Bassetts multivitamins for children ages 3-6 years.   I can safely say they are like yummy orange sweets!

The Bassetts multivitamins provide your child with vitamin B6 to support the nervous system, Vitamin D for strong teeth, bones and muscles and Vitamin B6 to help reduce tiredness and fatigue.

Vitamins for Adults

I have been taking Centrum Multi-vitamins for a while now and I have noticed a difference in the way I feel and look.

My skin has been clearer than ever. I have not changed face wash or make up so I know the vitamins must be having a positive effect.

I have more energy too!

The vitamins taste so good that I use them as my sweet tooth cravings as I am trying to eat healthier. You are allowed up to two a day and they are like yummy orange flavoured bursts of goodness!

Remember to always consult your doctor or health visitor if you have any queriers before putting your baby or child on vitamins.

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Mole At 5 Months

MY BABY IS 6 MONTHS OLD WHAAAAT?! Now that time went super quick! I swear I feel like I have lost the first few months of her life from just…

MY BABY IS 6 MONTHS OLD WHAAAAT?!

Now that time went super quick! I swear I feel like I have lost the first few months of her life from just being completely overwhelmed by being a first time mum. I can safely say, I am in the swings of it now so here is an update on the changes of Mole at 5 months.

Personality

Her personality have come through…big time! I absolutely love it. She has her own little mannerisms that make me smile and laugh each day 😀 She has also developed a temper which I only thought 2 year olds develop haha. We went to a Wildlife park and I was looking around in the gift shop and because I like to take my time, I stupidly gave her a fabric book off the shelf to keep her busy. I took it off her when it was time to go and an almighty shriek came out of her mouth..”ARRRGHHHHH!” I couldn’t believe it! I tested her to see if it was the book that she wanted to I gave it her back and she smiled again. We ended up having to buy a similar book, smaller and cheaper, as it was totally my fault but I never thought she would have reacted like that. Anyway, this temper tantrum have not left her and she has done it with various other things like getting hold of my mobile or not wanting to be fed.

Entertaining

I’m going to go into detail on a new blog post about how I keep her entertained. I have noticed that she is now interested in different toys and the way she plays with her toys is completely different. I love watching her play, she is so focused and I can see her brain ticking away trying to figure it all out.

Baby Classes

Mole still attends Baby Sensory and she is more involved than ever! She can now choose which toys she wants to hold and reaches out to grab rattles. Of course all toys ends up in her mouth haha.

We go to Art Class every Wednesday. This class is more for mums to have a break for an hour and gossip about mum life whilst making something creative for our little ones but Mole has been having the time of her life. She is either getting messy in spaghetti or practicing to be the next Picasso head to toe in paint.

Fridays is swimming. Although this causes an argument between me and Jay every Friday morning fighting about who goes in the pool, Mole has come on leaps and bounds. I can say now that I see an improvement in her kicking her legs and smiling more in the water.

Do you take your baby to any classes? Let me know which ones 😀

Weaning

Last months update I wrote about how Mole started weaning. I fed her baby rice or rusk before bed and soon realised it was not suiting her. I think weaning her at 4 months was too early for her so I waited and began again at 5 months. Success! Mole loves her food so far. I am really proud of how well she is taking to her purees. I tend to stick to mainly homemade vegetable purees and if I am out and about she loves the Heinz or Cow and Gate baby food jars. On the odd occasion she may not want her food but 9 times out of 10 she has ate the whole lot!

Health

Mole has an Eye Coloboma. She has had her latest check up to make sure that she can see okay through her eye. The results were very positive and her eye looks to be just as strong as her other eye.

She still has not suffered from Reflux ever since her last Osteopath appointment which has been truly amazing! I’d even go as far as saying it has been life changing for both of us.

Movement

She has mastered the roll 😀 Mole will role from one end of the room to the other, I have to have eyes in the back of my head at times! I’m glad during the night I don’t have to keep going in to roll her back over as last month she use to cry on her front as she thought she was stuck. Mole also does an “army shuffle” along the floor. Its like she can push herself around with her legs but hasn’t mastered a full crawl.

Thank-you for reading my Mole update! Let me know what your baby has learnt to do this past month 😀 !!

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Dear Molly

Dear Molly, When I first had you I never had a baby before. When I found out you were growing in my tummy I was extremely excited for our new…

Dear Molly,

When I first had you I never had a baby before. When I found out you were growing in my tummy I was extremely excited for our new adventure through life together.

Although I had never been around babies before, I thought I would be really good at being a mum because I work with children. I spend all day teaching them and showing them the right way to behave. I make them laugh and guide them through their problems. Some children I worked with always made bad choices and I would do my hardest to help them make the right choice even when other adults didn’t understand why.

So when I had you Molly I thought I would instantly be able to make all of the right choices for you, especially because you were mine. But Molly, I had no idea how hard being a mummy really is and i’m sure one day you will see for yourself when we look after your brother or sister if me and daddy have anymore babies.

When I first had you, I had all the time in the world as I had taken time off work. But having you meant I had to make a hard choice of moving out of Grandma and Grandads house to live with your Daddy. That was scary because I had never lived with a boy before and me and your daddy had not been together for very long so I was worried if he saw me all the time I might annoy him and he would not like me anymore.

Moving house was very lonely. I had no other adults around me. It takes my family a long time to travel here and I had no friends either. I had no one to talk to and I would go all day and night on my own and i’d get really upset with daddy when he would come in from work and spend the evening on the PlayStation with his headset on and then fall asleep on the couch for the rest of the night. I wished that you were big enough to be able to talk to me and we could have a girly night in together. I just felt like I didn’t know you. Not like I do now. I was terrified that I didn’t know I’d love you when you grow up.

When you were a baby you cried a lot. I was very silly because I never had a baby before I thought you cried a lot because of me. Sometimes I was scared to hold you because I thought you didn’t like me. Even when I wanted to hold and cuddle you, I felt like I couldn’t because I would make you cry. If I would hold you out in public I thought people might notice I was struggling so I didn’t leave the house. When really you had terrible tummy pains and reflux. You were crying because that was your way of talking to me, telling me that you needed me. I would cry too, not in front of other people, which is very silly. I’d cry because I needed you, and I was worried about being your mummy and doing it all wrong. From day one you taught me something very special; When you are hurting you should always tell someone. Even if it is a little hurting.

I always told my students at school that if you make the wrong choice at the end of the day it doesn’t really matter as we are all human and make mistakes sometimes. Well I should have listened to my own advice. But I felt like if I told anyone they would think I was a bad mummy and they would question my love for you. I know now that I may not be the best mummy in the world, but to you I am. And I will always do what is best for you trying my full best.

I am writing this letter to you Molly just in case there is another mummy out there who is scared and worried. I want them to know that yes it is okay not to be okay. To have a cry in the shower, to go to sleep feeling sick but it all gets better in time. I promise. Telling someone really helps. I’m not worried or scared about you anymore Molly. I can finally say I am excited and feeling all of the joyful feelings I did back when I found out you were growing in my tummy.

Thank you Molly, you have gifted me with so much in 5 months. New friends for life, life lessons, new passions, love and confidence (one thing I never thought was possible to have before you).

You may still make me cry on the odd hard day but I promise you fill me with smiles till I am bursting.

I love you always

Mummy

xxx

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The worst parenting advice for new mums

Have you recently had a baby? Congratulations! I’ve just had a baby too, well 5 months ago now and I can finally say I have started to get the hang…

Have you recently had a baby? Congratulations! I’ve just had a baby too, well 5 months ago now and I can finally say I have started to get the hang of motherhood now and I honestly never thought I would ever be able to say that. Especially in the first 3 months. That was the hardest for me.

I attended one of my friends baby shower the other day and she had an “Advice Book” for guests to leave a piece of advice in their about motherhood. Considering I have just been in the baby bubble recently my mind went blank. It reminded me, really clearly, about the new mum wilderness and the wasteland of parenting advice I received.

As soon as you announce you are pregnant advice comes at you from all angles. Well it did at me. I got opinions left right and centre. I was judged on every decision I made.  Advice came from anyone. An old lady in the doctors waiting room, a cashier at the supermarket, the midwife, my family and of course I became obsessed with anything baby/new mum related on the Internet, magazines  and apps. (I literally think I had every pregnancy app going.)

And the thing is, most of it is terrible. But when you are a first time mum it’s difficult to tell. You just want to be a sponge and absorb everything you are told so you can try to do a perfect job. What is the worst advice you could give to new mums?

Here’s mine 😀

Sleep When the Baby Sleeps

How many people have been told this? I still get told this 5 months on :O . It’s like its everybody’s favourite piece of advice to give you. They put their hand on your arm and tilt their head whist saying it in a calm yet patronising tone. Well these people must not have had a baby in a very long time because it is not that easy. I tried. In reality when your baby naps that is the only time you get to do anything such as have a shower, eat, clean, you know, basic human needs. By the time you fall asleep for your own nap your baby will wake up again anyway. Literally no point.

The cleaning can wait

Erm no. No the cleaning can not wait. I refuse to live in a pig sty. It’s bad enough being horrendously tired with a million and one visitors to see the baby and your house being a tip. For me, a messy house made it look like a sign I was not coping. In my house if I didn’t do the cleaning then no one else was exactly going to do it so what are you suppose to do? leave the dirty pots to pile up in the sink and not wash any clothes that are covered in baby sick and you know what else?

Disclaimer: If you do have someone to do the cleaning for you then totally take up the offer and yes the cleaning can wait 🙂 Put your feet up and enjoy every moment.

Rod for your own back

I was told so many “don’ts” . I was told not to Co-sleep, not to give the baby a dummy, not to put Mole in her baby rocking chair…the list goes on. After a few weeks I ignored it all knowing the full consequences and I still do not regret any decision I have made. When it is 4am and you have been up a dozen times through the night and the only thing that will settle your baby is to sleep together I will do it. And who is anyone else to judge? No I am not making a rod for my own back by raising my baby exactly how I want thank you 🙂

Health Visitors advice

Well 99% of the advice I have received from Health Visitors has been a waste of time. I’m sure there are lovely health visitors out there but personally I am yet to come across one. Stupid questions like “Are you sleeping okay?” “Erm well no obviously I have just had a newborn baby”. “You must get some sleep” brilliant, great advice thank you. Or speaking to them about reflux and needing Mole to be sat upright was like waving a red flag at a bull. “Oh no you can’t keep a newborn upright, they have to be lay flat.”  You can’t have this or that etc you get  my point.

Google

I use Google for everything. I would Google every single symptom Mole had, I’d Google “Why is my baby not sleeping?” or “What is this mark on her?” I would stay on Google for hours scanning every single page looking for the answer. If you are doing this at 3am and you are on page 17 of Google search results I think you should stop.

Cry it out

After trying this piece fo advice I do not know who was left more traumatised me or Mole. This advice has been great for other parents I believe but not so great for me. Mole cries if she needs something or she is genuinely upset about something and leaving her to cry made matters worse. I don’t want to see my baby upset or hear her cry. I’d rather just see to her problem and then get on with making her feel better.

So there you have it. My bad parenting advice! Comment below what bad parenting advice you received!

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10 things i’d do differently next time I have a baby

No I am definitely not broody…well don’t ask me that question if I am around cute, little newborns or Mole is having a good day. But… I was thinking about what…

No I am definitely not broody…well don’t ask me that question if I am around cute, little newborns or Mole is having a good day. But… I was thinking about what I would do differently next time I have a baby. I wonder if you also would do the same or have experienced the same feelings as me?

This post will also be helpful for a new mum-to-be, getting some advice from a mum that had no clue at first and has learnt a lot from her mistakes!

1. Have my mum present during labour

Now I know I am only at number 1 and already doing this wrong as I did have my mum present during labour with Mole, but, I’d 100% make sure she was again. There is just something calming about having your mother there. Maybe it is because she has been through it before and can give you advice or maybe its helpful because everyone needs their mummy sometimes. Comment below if you had any parents present?

2. I will not put pressure on myself to breastfeed

Sure I will give it a go, just like I did with Mole and if it doesn’t work out I promise myself not to lose sleep over it. Mole has coped just fine on formula and it has been very easy with bottle feeding and working out a routine.

3. Get sleep before visitors!

This is a huge one for me. As soon as you have a new baby you are in a whirlwind and surviving off adrenaline and coffee. I am so grateful for all visitors, taking time out of their lives to see my baby and making sure we are all well, but, it completely floored me. I think next time I will wait a week before allowing visitors so I can get settled…or I will make them make their own drinks so I don’t have to keep getting up and going through the pain of my burning stitches sitting back down. Sorry not sorry.

4. Be more open with Baby Blues

I am so guilty of always painting a smile on my face and pretending i’m all good and next time I will not allow myself to do this. Its far too draining. I will be honest and ask for help when I need it and not try to cope on my own.

5. I will not listen to every single piece of advice

Some advice is definitely helpful however, I tried to take on board everyone’s advice and it didn’t work for me. I will learn as I go and make my own mistakes to learn from. Next time I will be more confident to trust my own instinct. This includes getting into my own routine and not follow someone else’s.

6.Take more photos!

I have no photographs of Mole right after I gave birth to her. I have some from a while later but I would love to see more from right when she came into the world. I think it would be incredible to see.

7. Not rush into decorating the nursery

When I was pregnant I had the whole room finished as I felt an urge to rush it all. When in reality the baby doesn’t even sleep in there for 6 months. I wish I took the time to plan out the nursery and not jump straight into the first style I had in mind.

8. Use a dummy straight away

I was told not to use a dummy because it can confuse the baby when they come to breastfeed. Mole loves her dummy as a comforter and it has saved us in so many situations where she has got herself worked up and the dummy has helped to calm her down. I wish I would have gave it to her sooner and saved some public meltdowns.

9. Save up

Next time around I’m going to try and put more money behind me so I can have longer off work and really cherish the moment of being able to spend it with raising my baby. I hate the fact that money controls how much time I will have off with Mole. I’d love to have longer as it is going by far too quickly now.

10. Not stress about getting my pre baby body back

I went to the gym just 2 weeks after giving birth. I was so disgusted with how I looked and I would slog myself at the gym to try and feel like the old me again. Although I have controlled what I eat to an extent and I have been active, your body does just go back over time. I will not go crazy trying to fit into my old jeans until I am truly ready and after more sleep.

I’m sure there are probably 100’s of things I will do differently next time around but these stuck out for me. What about you? Do any of these sound similar to you or would you change other things? Let me know in the comments 🙂

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