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How to wean your baby

I’m going to share my personal experience on weaning Mole. By no means is this the only correct way on how to wean your baby. But, this way worked for…

I’m going to share my personal experience on weaning Mole. By no means is this the only correct way on how to wean your baby. But, this way worked for us.

Weaning is challenging. You think your baby would automatically love food and never let themselves go hungry. No haha.

I was amazed at the lack of information there was online on how to wean your baby. There is so much to learn too, from first tastes to baby led weaning. How does a first time mum know where to start?

Weaning

Is my baby ready to wean?

I attempted to wean Mole at 4 months old with baby rice. Although she displayed the signs of being ready to wean and I felt that I was holding a bottle of milk to her mouth 24/7 she was not ready. A part of me also though that if she was on solids then we both would get a full nights sleep but that wasn’t the case either.

Signs a baby is ready to wean

  • your baby can sit up straight and hold their head
  • Good hand to mouth coordination
  • An interest in food
  • An interest in your food
  • Requiring more milk feeds
  • Not feeling satisfied after a feed
  • Opening their mouth to food on a spoon

Signs a baby is not ready to wean

  • Keeping their mouth closed tightly for food
  • Messy and frequent poos. (Not related to teething or other health conditions)
  • Under 4 months
  • Can not support themselves in a high chair.

First tastes

Baby Rice

I first gave Mole baby rice, just a couple of spoonfuls mixed with her usual formula milk. I made sure the first few times it was very runny and smooth just like honey.

I gave her this just once a day in the morning to see how she coped with it before I tried anything else.

Rusk

I had tried Mole with rusk mixed with her milk. If you use a fast flow bottle you can give it to your baby that way.

Porridge

I kept all of Moles very first tastes similar so she could get use to the food. Porridge was a massive hit and we continue to use porridge for breakfast with a mix of fruit purée to keep it exciting.

Weaning 3

Stage 1 of weaning

Once we had breakfast nailed I moved onto trying her with real food. Vegetable or fruit purées are brilliant for their first tastes.

You can start off with doing a different vegetable a day or week and then swap with fruit. Be cautious as babies already love a sweet taste so fruit purée will go down much easier.

Portion control

I knew that I wanted to make my own homemade purée but I had no idea on the portion size or the consistency of the purée.

I bought some of the supermarkets own brand of first taste purées e.g just Parsnip and a popular brands. I then could see the portion size similarities and the consistency needed for my own.

Stage 2 of weaning

Once your baby has become use to the taste of one blended vegetables or fruit then you can begin to mix and match. This is where you have the chance to be super creative. You will get to know what flavours your baby loves or hates. Mole loves pumpkins and carrots but hates peas!

To make your own purée all you need to do is mix your chosen fruit/vegetables, add a little water and strain out any big lumps as the texture has to be very smooth and runny.

If your baby is 6+ months you can now introduce dairy.

WEANING 4

7 months +

Moles appetite has increased so I have introduced a pudding to her evening meal. Some of her favourites are a natural yoghurt mixed with fruit or Ella’s Kitchen apple crumble purée.

I have made Moles purée thicker now with soft lumps of food. To achieve this you can mash food with a fork or masher instead of blending.

Baby Led Weaning

Now Mole has got the hang of purées I am introducing a baby led weaning approach.

I started off on Ella’s melty puffs so I wasn’t worried about any choking.

I now let her try bits of banana, carrots and broccoli cut into small pieces or finger size for her to grab.

This process is still ongoing with her and she has good days and bad days. If she is not feeling BLW then I give her purée so she isn’t going hungry.

WEANING 7

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10 things about Mole

Get to know Mole! I thought I’d share with you 10 different things about my lovely, little Mole so you can get to know her a little bit more 😀…

Get to know Mole!

I thought I’d share with you 10 different things about my lovely, little Mole so you can get to know her a little bit more 😀

  1. Her favourite food is Cauliflower Cheese Puree. Its the one food I can always guarantee she will eat even on her fussy days.
  2. She’s a nosey parker. Whenever we are in restaurants or cafes, she always has to swivel her head and watch what everybody else is doing.
  3. Mole has a webbed toe. It is her little toe and i’m not sure what to do about it really. We have had the option for it to be separated but at the moment its not bothering her so I have left it be.
  4. Mole is obsessed with my iPhone which has resulted in her getting a pretend VTech mobile off her Grandma
  5. Her favourite song is Charlie and the Numbers from BabyTV. Even if I just sing the first number she smiles.
  6. Her first word was Mama ❤️ and her second word was Dada.
  7. When we went to Chester Zoo her favourite animal was the giraffe. She was mesmerised by how big they were.
  8. Mole has visited 2 other countries. France when she was 6 weeks old and Majorca when she was 4 months old. Very lucky baby.
  9. Mole hates peas. HATES them.
  10. When Mole use to go in the sunlight she would always squint her eyes like a little Mole and her nickname stuck even more.
  11. Ok, I know I said 10 things but I couldn’t miss this one off… Jay and I rarely call her Molly. If it’s not Mole, Moley or Mole rat then it’s Suzie because we think she looks like a Suzie.

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Mum Beauty Tips | Perfect Flawless Base For Makeup

Whether you are pregnant, a new mum or you have been a mum for a while now you can’t help but look at past photos of yourself and wonder what…

Whether you are pregnant, a new mum or you have been a mum for a while now you can’t help but look at past photos of yourself and wonder what happened.

When morning arrives after another sleepless night, you have to get up and carry on as normal.  Including attempting to look like your old self.

Honestly, there is a part of me that does not care as much about my appearance as I use to, probably down to time. But when I do make an effort to wear makeup I want it to look perfect.

I have worked as a Makeup Artist for Bobbi Brown. To achieve a great makeup application is all down to the base and what products you use on your skin. I now spend more time applying skin care than applying my makeup.

My Skincare Routine for a flawless base

After many years of serial buying skincare products I have now found my holy grails. As a mum, I keep my skincare routine as minimal as possible. I use products that make a difference quickly so I have more time with my baby than getting ready.

I have to thank the lovely lady at Clarins. One shopping trip day, I walked into the store and she asked if I was okay. I poured my heart out whining about how crap I felt, because of all of the sleepless nights with Mole.

I’m usually put off by the sales pitches at the stores however, I gave in and bought everything she suggested to make my skin look awake and flawless under make-up.

I am so glad I did. My drained, tired, lifeless new mummy skin has gone.

Step 1

Clarins Multi Active Eye Cream (£35)

The cyro-metalic tip is ultra cooling under the eyes. Applying it feels instantly refreshing and the cooling tip helps to reduce puffiness.

One of the main ingredients is Teasel. Which has been proven to reduce dark circles and puffiness caused by fatigue and stress.

I have found that my concealer lasts longer when I wear an eye cream. I love how this eye cream is not too oily. An oily eye cream will cause your concealer to crease and define your under eye wrinkles even more.

Step 2

Clarins Multi Active Face Cream (£42)

My skin is combination. I get a very oily T-Zone which drives me crazy. I have tried moisturisers for dry skin as the rest of my face is dry but, they have been too rich for me. My makeup would slide off through out the day.

Moisturisers for oily skin have not been successful on me either. They are not hydrating enough. My makeup would stick to dry patches on my face enhancing my blotches.

The consistency of the Clarins Multi Active Face is lightweight. I barely feel it sitting heavy on my skin. It leaves a velvety finish allowing my foundation to glide on smoothly.

Step 3

Booster Energy (£15)

This is a highly concentrated formula. It feels like a hybrid between an oil and a serum. I either mix it into my moisturiser or apply straight after.

Clarins Booster Energy is formulated with Ginseng extract, a legendary Chinese medicinal plant known for thousands of years for its stimulating properties that help to re-energize your skin, minimize signs of fatigue and revive radiance.

My skin instantly feels hydrated and fresh. I love how there is no greasy residue afterwards.

I would love to hear what your favourite skin care products are for a flawless make-up base!

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Does my baby need to take vitamins?

I have been weaning Mole since she was 4 1/2 months old. Now she has turned 6 months old and is depending on more solid foods. I have been wondering…

I have been weaning Mole since she was 4 1/2 months old. Now she has turned 6 months old and is depending on more solid foods. I have been wondering if my baby is getting all the vitamins she needs daily to grow healthy and strong and does my baby need to take vitamins?

Do babies need vitamin supplements?

Breast milk or formula provide all the vitamins a baby needs for the first 6 months. Except for vitamin D which the Health Visitor advised me to supplement Mole with whilst I was breastfeeding. My baby quickly moved on to formula milk. As she was getting more that 32 ounces a day she did not need to supplement vitamin D any longer.

Vitamins for babies aged 6 months and over

Usually babies who eat lot’s of different foods don’t need to supplement with extra vitamins as you will be surprised by how much vitamins they actually get from their food. Now that Mole eats a variety of food I have been more aware of what I am feeding her, making sure it is nutritious (except the odd chocolate pud pud here and there).

However, some meal times, especially if she is teething, I find that her appetite is not strong. I worry that she is not getting her daily vitamins and after dropping more of her formula feeds to depend on food. I know that I can’t keep relaying on her formula to provide this.

The Department of Health recommends that all children aged 6 months to 5 years are given vitamin supplements containing vitamins A, C and D every day. (NHS)

I have been giving Mole Wellbaby Multi-Vitamin Liquid Formula which includes vitamins A, C and D. This multivitamin supports rapid physical growth and development of bones, muscles, blood and the brain. The main nutrients are iron and vitamin D. Helping to support cognitive development and strengthen their immune systems.

The Wellbaby Multi-vitamin is so easy to use too. I put 5ml into her bottle and she doesn’t even notice it is in there. Win win!

Vitamins for 3-6 years

Those that have older children will know the struggle it is to get them to eat all their veggies. You may find yourself in the same position in wondering if they are getting their daily vitamins to help them grow and develop strong.

I was gifted a box of Bassetts multivitamins for children ages 3-6 years.   I can safely say they are like yummy orange sweets!

The Bassetts multivitamins provide your child with vitamin B6 to support the nervous system, Vitamin D for strong teeth, bones and muscles and Vitamin B6 to help reduce tiredness and fatigue.

Vitamins for Adults

I have been taking Centrum Multi-vitamins for a while now and I have noticed a difference in the way I feel and look.

My skin has been clearer than ever. I have not changed face wash or make up so I know the vitamins must be having a positive effect.

I have more energy too!

The vitamins taste so good that I use them as my sweet tooth cravings as I am trying to eat healthier. You are allowed up to two a day and they are like yummy orange flavoured bursts of goodness!

Remember to always consult your doctor or health visitor if you have any queriers before putting your baby or child on vitamins.

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Mole At 5 Months

MY BABY IS 6 MONTHS OLD WHAAAAT?! Now that time went super quick! I swear I feel like I have lost the first few months of her life from just…

MY BABY IS 6 MONTHS OLD WHAAAAT?!

Now that time went super quick! I swear I feel like I have lost the first few months of her life from just being completely overwhelmed by being a first time mum. I can safely say, I am in the swings of it now so here is an update on the changes of Mole at 5 months.

Personality

Her personality have come through…big time! I absolutely love it. She has her own little mannerisms that make me smile and laugh each day 😀 She has also developed a temper which I only thought 2 year olds develop haha. We went to a Wildlife park and I was looking around in the gift shop and because I like to take my time, I stupidly gave her a fabric book off the shelf to keep her busy. I took it off her when it was time to go and an almighty shriek came out of her mouth..”ARRRGHHHHH!” I couldn’t believe it! I tested her to see if it was the book that she wanted to I gave it her back and she smiled again. We ended up having to buy a similar book, smaller and cheaper, as it was totally my fault but I never thought she would have reacted like that. Anyway, this temper tantrum have not left her and she has done it with various other things like getting hold of my mobile or not wanting to be fed.

Entertaining

I’m going to go into detail on a new blog post about how I keep her entertained. I have noticed that she is now interested in different toys and the way she plays with her toys is completely different. I love watching her play, she is so focused and I can see her brain ticking away trying to figure it all out.

Baby Classes

Mole still attends Baby Sensory and she is more involved than ever! She can now choose which toys she wants to hold and reaches out to grab rattles. Of course all toys ends up in her mouth haha.

We go to Art Class every Wednesday. This class is more for mums to have a break for an hour and gossip about mum life whilst making something creative for our little ones but Mole has been having the time of her life. She is either getting messy in spaghetti or practicing to be the next Picasso head to toe in paint.

Fridays is swimming. Although this causes an argument between me and Jay every Friday morning fighting about who goes in the pool, Mole has come on leaps and bounds. I can say now that I see an improvement in her kicking her legs and smiling more in the water.

Do you take your baby to any classes? Let me know which ones 😀

Weaning

Last months update I wrote about how Mole started weaning. I fed her baby rice or rusk before bed and soon realised it was not suiting her. I think weaning her at 4 months was too early for her so I waited and began again at 5 months. Success! Mole loves her food so far. I am really proud of how well she is taking to her purees. I tend to stick to mainly homemade vegetable purees and if I am out and about she loves the Heinz or Cow and Gate baby food jars. On the odd occasion she may not want her food but 9 times out of 10 she has ate the whole lot!

Health

Mole has an Eye Coloboma. She has had her latest check up to make sure that she can see okay through her eye. The results were very positive and her eye looks to be just as strong as her other eye.

She still has not suffered from Reflux ever since her last Osteopath appointment which has been truly amazing! I’d even go as far as saying it has been life changing for both of us.

Movement

She has mastered the roll 😀 Mole will role from one end of the room to the other, I have to have eyes in the back of my head at times! I’m glad during the night I don’t have to keep going in to roll her back over as last month she use to cry on her front as she thought she was stuck. Mole also does an “army shuffle” along the floor. Its like she can push herself around with her legs but hasn’t mastered a full crawl.

Thank-you for reading my Mole update! Let me know what your baby has learnt to do this past month 😀 !!

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Dear Molly

Dear Molly, When I first had you I never had a baby before. When I found out you were growing in my tummy I was extremely excited for our new…

Dear Molly,

When I first had you I never had a baby before. When I found out you were growing in my tummy I was extremely excited for our new adventure through life together.

Although I had never been around babies before, I thought I would be really good at being a mum because I work with children. I spend all day teaching them and showing them the right way to behave. I make them laugh and guide them through their problems. Some children I worked with always made bad choices and I would do my hardest to help them make the right choice even when other adults didn’t understand why.

So when I had you Molly I thought I would instantly be able to make all of the right choices for you, especially because you were mine. But Molly, I had no idea how hard being a mummy really is and i’m sure one day you will see for yourself when we look after your brother or sister if me and daddy have anymore babies.

When I first had you, I had all the time in the world as I had taken time off work. But having you meant I had to make a hard choice of moving out of Grandma and Grandads house to live with your Daddy. That was scary because I had never lived with a boy before and me and your daddy had not been together for very long so I was worried if he saw me all the time I might annoy him and he would not like me anymore.

Moving house was very lonely. I had no other adults around me. It takes my family a long time to travel here and I had no friends either. I had no one to talk to and I would go all day and night on my own and i’d get really upset with daddy when he would come in from work and spend the evening on the PlayStation with his headset on and then fall asleep on the couch for the rest of the night. I wished that you were big enough to be able to talk to me and we could have a girly night in together. I just felt like I didn’t know you. Not like I do now. I was terrified that I didn’t know I’d love you when you grow up.

When you were a baby you cried a lot. I was very silly because I never had a baby before I thought you cried a lot because of me. Sometimes I was scared to hold you because I thought you didn’t like me. Even when I wanted to hold and cuddle you, I felt like I couldn’t because I would make you cry. If I would hold you out in public I thought people might notice I was struggling so I didn’t leave the house. When really you had terrible tummy pains and reflux. You were crying because that was your way of talking to me, telling me that you needed me. I would cry too, not in front of other people, which is very silly. I’d cry because I needed you, and I was worried about being your mummy and doing it all wrong. From day one you taught me something very special; When you are hurting you should always tell someone. Even if it is a little hurting.

I always told my students at school that if you make the wrong choice at the end of the day it doesn’t really matter as we are all human and make mistakes sometimes. Well I should have listened to my own advice. But I felt like if I told anyone they would think I was a bad mummy and they would question my love for you. I know now that I may not be the best mummy in the world, but to you I am. And I will always do what is best for you trying my full best.

I am writing this letter to you Molly just in case there is another mummy out there who is scared and worried. I want them to know that yes it is okay not to be okay. To have a cry in the shower, to go to sleep feeling sick but it all gets better in time. I promise. Telling someone really helps. I’m not worried or scared about you anymore Molly. I can finally say I am excited and feeling all of the joyful feelings I did back when I found out you were growing in my tummy.

Thank you Molly, you have gifted me with so much in 5 months. New friends for life, life lessons, new passions, love and confidence (one thing I never thought was possible to have before you).

You may still make me cry on the odd hard day but I promise you fill me with smiles till I am bursting.

I love you always

Mummy

xxx

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The worst parenting advice for new mums

Have you recently had a baby? Congratulations! I’ve just had a baby too, well 5 months ago now and I can finally say I have started to get the hang…

Have you recently had a baby? Congratulations! I’ve just had a baby too, well 5 months ago now and I can finally say I have started to get the hang of motherhood now and I honestly never thought I would ever be able to say that. Especially in the first 3 months. That was the hardest for me.

I attended one of my friends baby shower the other day and she had an “Advice Book” for guests to leave a piece of advice in their about motherhood. Considering I have just been in the baby bubble recently my mind went blank. It reminded me, really clearly, about the new mum wilderness and the wasteland of parenting advice I received.

As soon as you announce you are pregnant advice comes at you from all angles. Well it did at me. I got opinions left right and centre. I was judged on every decision I made.  Advice came from anyone. An old lady in the doctors waiting room, a cashier at the supermarket, the midwife, my family and of course I became obsessed with anything baby/new mum related on the Internet, magazines  and apps. (I literally think I had every pregnancy app going.)

And the thing is, most of it is terrible. But when you are a first time mum it’s difficult to tell. You just want to be a sponge and absorb everything you are told so you can try to do a perfect job. What is the worst advice you could give to new mums?

Here’s mine 😀

Sleep When the Baby Sleeps

How many people have been told this? I still get told this 5 months on :O . It’s like its everybody’s favourite piece of advice to give you. They put their hand on your arm and tilt their head whist saying it in a calm yet patronising tone. Well these people must not have had a baby in a very long time because it is not that easy. I tried. In reality when your baby naps that is the only time you get to do anything such as have a shower, eat, clean, you know, basic human needs. By the time you fall asleep for your own nap your baby will wake up again anyway. Literally no point.

The cleaning can wait

Erm no. No the cleaning can not wait. I refuse to live in a pig sty. It’s bad enough being horrendously tired with a million and one visitors to see the baby and your house being a tip. For me, a messy house made it look like a sign I was not coping. In my house if I didn’t do the cleaning then no one else was exactly going to do it so what are you suppose to do? leave the dirty pots to pile up in the sink and not wash any clothes that are covered in baby sick and you know what else?

Disclaimer: If you do have someone to do the cleaning for you then totally take up the offer and yes the cleaning can wait 🙂 Put your feet up and enjoy every moment.

Rod for your own back

I was told so many “don’ts” . I was told not to Co-sleep, not to give the baby a dummy, not to put Mole in her baby rocking chair…the list goes on. After a few weeks I ignored it all knowing the full consequences and I still do not regret any decision I have made. When it is 4am and you have been up a dozen times through the night and the only thing that will settle your baby is to sleep together I will do it. And who is anyone else to judge? No I am not making a rod for my own back by raising my baby exactly how I want thank you 🙂

Health Visitors advice

Well 99% of the advice I have received from Health Visitors has been a waste of time. I’m sure there are lovely health visitors out there but personally I am yet to come across one. Stupid questions like “Are you sleeping okay?” “Erm well no obviously I have just had a newborn baby”. “You must get some sleep” brilliant, great advice thank you. Or speaking to them about reflux and needing Mole to be sat upright was like waving a red flag at a bull. “Oh no you can’t keep a newborn upright, they have to be lay flat.”  You can’t have this or that etc you get  my point.

Google

I use Google for everything. I would Google every single symptom Mole had, I’d Google “Why is my baby not sleeping?” or “What is this mark on her?” I would stay on Google for hours scanning every single page looking for the answer. If you are doing this at 3am and you are on page 17 of Google search results I think you should stop.

Cry it out

After trying this piece fo advice I do not know who was left more traumatised me or Mole. This advice has been great for other parents I believe but not so great for me. Mole cries if she needs something or she is genuinely upset about something and leaving her to cry made matters worse. I don’t want to see my baby upset or hear her cry. I’d rather just see to her problem and then get on with making her feel better.

So there you have it. My bad parenting advice! Comment below what bad parenting advice you received!

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10 things i’d do differently next time I have a baby

No I am definitely not broody…well don’t ask me that question if I am around cute, little newborns or Mole is having a good day. But… I was thinking about what…

No I am definitely not broody…well don’t ask me that question if I am around cute, little newborns or Mole is having a good day. But… I was thinking about what I would do differently next time I have a baby. I wonder if you also would do the same or have experienced the same feelings as me?

This post will also be helpful for a new mum-to-be, getting some advice from a mum that had no clue at first and has learnt a lot from her mistakes!

1. Have my mum present during labour

Now I know I am only at number 1 and already doing this wrong as I did have my mum present during labour with Mole, but, I’d 100% make sure she was again. There is just something calming about having your mother there. Maybe it is because she has been through it before and can give you advice or maybe its helpful because everyone needs their mummy sometimes. Comment below if you had any parents present?

2. I will not put pressure on myself to breastfeed

Sure I will give it a go, just like I did with Mole and if it doesn’t work out I promise myself not to lose sleep over it. Mole has coped just fine on formula and it has been very easy with bottle feeding and working out a routine.

3. Get sleep before visitors!

This is a huge one for me. As soon as you have a new baby you are in a whirlwind and surviving off adrenaline and coffee. I am so grateful for all visitors, taking time out of their lives to see my baby and making sure we are all well, but, it completely floored me. I think next time I will wait a week before allowing visitors so I can get settled…or I will make them make their own drinks so I don’t have to keep getting up and going through the pain of my burning stitches sitting back down. Sorry not sorry.

4. Be more open with Baby Blues

I am so guilty of always painting a smile on my face and pretending i’m all good and next time I will not allow myself to do this. Its far too draining. I will be honest and ask for help when I need it and not try to cope on my own.

5. I will not listen to every single piece of advice

Some advice is definitely helpful however, I tried to take on board everyone’s advice and it didn’t work for me. I will learn as I go and make my own mistakes to learn from. Next time I will be more confident to trust my own instinct. This includes getting into my own routine and not follow someone else’s.

6.Take more photos!

I have no photographs of Mole right after I gave birth to her. I have some from a while later but I would love to see more from right when she came into the world. I think it would be incredible to see.

7. Not rush into decorating the nursery

When I was pregnant I had the whole room finished as I felt an urge to rush it all. When in reality the baby doesn’t even sleep in there for 6 months. I wish I took the time to plan out the nursery and not jump straight into the first style I had in mind.

8. Use a dummy straight away

I was told not to use a dummy because it can confuse the baby when they come to breastfeed. Mole loves her dummy as a comforter and it has saved us in so many situations where she has got herself worked up and the dummy has helped to calm her down. I wish I would have gave it to her sooner and saved some public meltdowns.

9. Save up

Next time around I’m going to try and put more money behind me so I can have longer off work and really cherish the moment of being able to spend it with raising my baby. I hate the fact that money controls how much time I will have off with Mole. I’d love to have longer as it is going by far too quickly now.

10. Not stress about getting my pre baby body back

I went to the gym just 2 weeks after giving birth. I was so disgusted with how I looked and I would slog myself at the gym to try and feel like the old me again. Although I have controlled what I eat to an extent and I have been active, your body does just go back over time. I will not go crazy trying to fit into my old jeans until I am truly ready and after more sleep.

I’m sure there are probably 100’s of things I will do differently next time around but these stuck out for me. What about you? Do any of these sound similar to you or would you change other things? Let me know in the comments 🙂

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My Feelings After Birth | Baby Blues

I was super chilled through out my pregnancy. I never freaked out or stressed out, I took every single day as it came and I couldn’t have been happier. But…

I was super chilled through out my pregnancy. I never freaked out or stressed out, I took every single day as it came and I couldn’t have been happier. But all that changed right after I gave birth.

My pregnancy involved me moving to a new town to live with my boyfriend as I currently lived with my parents and at the time, even though I was a few hours away from everything I knew, it didn’t seem to bother me.

My first words holding her were “oh my word what do I do??!!”

The moment Mole was placed on my chest I got scared. My first words holding her were “oh my word what do I do???” screaming out to the midwife. I had no experience with babies and I don’t even think I had held a baby before. It hit me, the huge amount of responsibility I had caring for her and I wanted to be perfect.

Struggling to breastfeed

After a few hours in hospital, the midwife came in and questioned me “have you not fed her yet?” in a stern tone. It was the “yet” in her question that stuck with me. I felt sick, I looked at Mole sleeping away in the little crib they have and thought, “why have I not fed you yet 🙁 ?” and then I thought “how do I even feed her?” I really did not have a clue what I was doing. It took me 10 minutes to struggle changing a nappy and one of the most important responsibilities as a mother is feeding your baby and I had no clue how to even do it! The feelings of excitement and happiness started fading away.

The feelings of excitement and happiness started fading away

Struggling to breastfeed at the start gave me so much anxiety. From not knowing when and how often she should be feeding to not knowing if I was doing it properly and Mole was having enough.

This feeling still lasted when I took Mole home from the hospital. As soon as I walked through the doors with her she cried and cried and cried. I was trying to feed her every 40 minutes but she was constantly hungry. I was up all night for about a week. I saw every hour of the clock. It wasn’t till I spoke to my mum on the phone at how much I was struggling caring for her when she asked “are you winding her?” I didn’t even know what this meant! Again I felt like I was doing everything wrong and as a mother I should know all of this stuff.

Flashbacks

I’m not sure if anyone else has gone through this, I kept on getting flashbacks of the birth. But the painful bit. It was like I had PTSD from birth trauma! My birth story went really well actually, I don’t even know what I’m complaining about as so many women have it bad, yet, it was the most traumatic event that had ever happened to me. I had never had that pain before for hours on end. Every movement I did afterwards that hurt triggered a memory of screaming to push Mole out. I could even feel the pain again in my mind.

The Nappy Train

Sadly, I could’t get to grips with how often I had to change Mole’s nappy. She would get so upset if she even just did a little wee in her nappy. For some reason I got this awful feeling of reflection. Spending most of my life in education to finally hold down a good job and now being off work to change countless nappies everyday. I don’t know why but it made me feel like a failure in my job.  It was hard to convince people around me as well that just because i’m off work doesn’t mean that I do nothing but watch TV all day, I am constantly changing nappies and feeding. I am raising a life. It was very hard to accept that being a mum is a full time job. Its the hardest full time job. And I am so grateful now that I can see it is the most rewarding full time job.

Mourning my old life

Writing this now, remembering the thoughts I had about missing my old life has got me in disbelief. I’ve had Mole for 5 months now and I wouldn’t want my life any other way. I am so grateful to have her and the happiness she gives me every single day. Nothing in the world can make me as happy as she can.

But, during the first few weeks I found myself mourning my previous life. My selfish life. Being able to shower when I wanted, sleep all night, go to the gym for two hours and not feel guilty. I would constantly question myself “What the hell have I done?” I’d gone from having it very cushy living with my parents and seeing my friends every weekend to being in a whole new town, not having anyone to help to caring for a newborn baby.

I would constantly question myself “What the hell have I done?”

Tears

I can’t tell you how many tears I shed during the first few weeks. Anything could set me off. The worst was when the midwife at my check up appointments would ask how my mood was and I’d get a horrible lump in my throat and then i’d spend the rest of the session not listening to her properly because I’d be trying my hardest not to cry, then as soon as the session was over I’d just burst into tears. I didn’t want people to think I wasn’t coping because so many people have babies and they all seem to handle it pretty well. I wanted to be like them. A strong mum.

I remember placing Mole on her play mat in front of the shower so I could multi-task watching her and getting to wash my hair. I’d step into the shower and cry. Looking at her whilst crying made me cry even harder because I felt guilty for crying when I was so lucky to have her. I’d get out of the shower and paint a smile on my face so know one could tell tears were streaming down my cheeks 5 minutes ago.

Symptoms of Baby Blues

I started to wonder if I had Post Natal Depression. But I didn’t have all of the main symptoms and some days were good days for me. I came across Baby Blues whilst researching my own symptoms and I fitted into this perfectly.

  • Crying for no reason
  • Irratbility
  • Anxiety
  • Insomnia
  • Poor concentration
  • Sadness
  • Restlessness
  • Impatience
  • Mood changes

It was strange really because after 2/3 weeks I felt normal. Like all of my previous feelings and struggles were just a dream. I started getting out of the house to baby classes and making new mum friends pouring my heart out to them, going on walks breathing in fresh air and began the process of loving my new life.

I wake up every single day now so content and in love. Even through the bad nights of no sleep I look at Mole and smile. I almost hate myself for ever feeling the way I did the first few weeks of her life but sometimes you can’t control what is going to happen. Hormones have a huge role to play too and i’ve accepted that I can’t blame everything on myself.

I LOVE being a mummy.

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Woodland Themed Baby Shower

I can remember being so overwhelmed with ideas for a baby shower I just didn’t know where to start! I narrowed down my ideas to wanting something rustic, natural colours…

I can remember being so overwhelmed with ideas for a baby shower I just didn’t know where to start!

I narrowed down my ideas to wanting something rustic, natural colours with pops of pink but, not too over the top yet, girlie and fun ready to celebrate my beautiful baby girl. Yes thats my version of narrowed down lol.

Things I considered before I started planning

A few other points I needed to be aware of was:

  • Will the theme suitable for all ages?
  • Will the theme fit my budget?
  • Will there be enough decorations and favours to make the theme obvious?
  • Will the decorations I plan to get fit into the space okay?

Choosing a Theme

The Woodland Theme fitted perfectly with this and I knew I had plenty of options for decorations and party favours. I had never planned a party before and this one felt extra special to me because it was for my baby, even though she was in my belly, so it had to be just right 🙂 Plus, whilst you’re pregnant with your first, you seem to have all the time in the world to spend hours looking on Amazon at artificial grass and leaves.

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Location

The Baby Shower took place in my kitchen and I invited a fair amount of guests so I had to be sure whilst there was enough food, favours and games for everyone it wasn’t too crowded in the kitchen.

I’m one of those very lucky girls who has a big island in the middle of the kitchen. I had always dreamed of this. I knew thats where I want the display and all of the guests can crowd around there plus we have extra seating in the kitchen too.

Decorations

Table Cover

I started of planning my theme by looking for a table cloth. Something green or brown to set the tone. I soon realised that I wouldn’t have even got a table cloth to fit the island. Can baby brain start when you’re pregnant? 

Instead I opted for an artificial grass runner. It was a great idea if I do say so myself. Automatically it set the scene of being outside. It’s also perfect for cutting to size and I liked the width as it didn’t cover too much of the table leaving more room for other decorations.

You can find the Artificial Grass Table Runner here: https://amzn.to/2Pt4fDm  £17.00

As there was still space on the table I used a hanging vine draped over the table, which helped with adding colour and texture.

You can find the hanging vine here: https://amzn.to/2nWdM9o £2.99

I also used bunches of leaves to hang from the TV on the wall so the decorations were not just placed on the table and it tied the whole room together.

You can find the hanging wall vine here: https://amzn.to/2MERC9H £3.99

Alternative Food Placemats

My vision was to have all different tiers of food on logs however, this because pretty pricey. Instead I purchased a few flat log disks to place different food items on. They came in a pack of 20, were rather small but brilliant for holding a mini flapjack or other nibbles!

You can find the Log Disks here: https://amzn.to/2PtD8b1  £3.25

I purchased a natural log slice that was bigger to hold a selection of mini bites on. This looked great and varied the food placing. The natural log effect helped give off the rustic vibe.

You can find the Natural log slice here: https://amzn.to/2wc5hdO  £5.99

For any other food placemats I just used plain old foiled trays that you can get from your local supermarket for pretty cheap!

Table Confetti

One of the biggest decorations for make an impact was the table confetti.

My favourite was the rustic, wooden hearts with “Baby Shower” wrote on them. I sprinkled them all over the artificial grass runner. They also do “Baby Girl” or “Baby Boy” ones too.

You can buy the Wooden Hearts here: https://amzn.to/2MH3Y0W £2.99 for 50.

Other table confetti I used was artificial flowers. I kept the colour scheme of the two flowers white and pink to keep it girlie yet not overdone.

You can find the White Flowers here: https://amzn.to/2N8q21z £0.81

You can find the Pink Flowers here: https://amzn.to/2w3Z8RM £1.79

Finishing Touches

To decorate the nibbles wire toadstools were brilliant. You can bend them to shape in any direction as if they were growing from the ground. The contrasting red colour of the toadstool was very bold compared to the neutral colours of the brownies and flapjacks.

You can find the Wire Toadstools here: https://amzn.to/2ML7IOQ £8.87

Around other food placemats I purchased some Photo Props and mini pine cones. The photo props were great as the pack contained twigs, moss and log slices.

You can find the Photo Prop here: https://amzn.to/2ML5grE £4.59

I found artificial grass animals and they looked really good with the theme! I placed them around the display. When they first arrived I was thinking oh i’m not sure what to do with these but when the display got going they fitted in perfectly.

You can find the Turf Animals here: https://amzn.to/2LgFLcZ   £8.64

Balloons

I filled the floor with pink balloons and had the main balloon attraction was a foiled ballon saying baby hanging from the lights.

You can find the Foiled Baby Balloon here: https://amzn.to/2MHcHjG £2.54

Food

The star of the show was the cake! It bought the whole theme together and it couldn’t have been more perfect. The cake was a total surprise too off my sisters.

I had biscuits from Slattery’s made that were Woodland Themed too!

And Jay’s Mum made the cutest fairy cakes!!

I had hot food on a display elsewhere in the kitchen and kept the sweet food on the display.

The personalised woodland themed chocolates looked great on the display. They tasted great too!

You can find the personalised chocolates here:  https://amzn.to/2ByF0N2 £7.80

Games and Guest Book

My guest book was actually a frame where you signed a cloud and inserted it into the frame. The only problem was that I got Sharpie pens and the ink ran on everyones clouds so I recommend a normal biro pen.

You can find the Guest Frame here:  https://amzn.to/2MIwLC5 £17.99

The Baby Shower games we played were:

  • New mum advice cards
  • How well do you know mum
  • Baby Prediction
  • Pin the dummy on the baby.

Overall the whole day was incredible. I had so much fun planning it for everyone and then putting it all together in the morning with my sister. I couldn’t have asked for a better day and I know my guests had a lovely time too!

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